27 year old Boyfriend, Not Interested in Sex?

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Veronica

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My off and on boyfriend of 1year just recently took me to meet his parents, which as he explained was a way of showing me he cared a lot.Prior to Meeting Them, In the Past few months though we barely have sex maybe once a week. Sex in the beginning was often which i know happens in the first stages of a relationship. I always am the one to initiate it and that's when he'll finally decide to jump in ( he says "He wants to be the one to finish it and satisfy me" ). He has been worrying about work and future career stuff, but for months at end? I Recently Just Asked him Why we weren't having sex as much and if there was something I needed to work on. His reply was that he still found me sexy but he felt that he was getting old (hes turning 27) and that his sex drive isn't the same. I feel like that's an excuse but don't know what conclusions to come to considering 5 months ago his sex drive was fine. My confidence is dwindling and I don't know if he really has a sex problem or he's possibly attracted to or pursuing another woman. He wouldn't tell me if he was and he tells me that he refuses to break up with me or let me go. What is going on with him?
 
Maybe you wore him out with the idea of sex before or without marriage. Yes, I am sure they would lose some drive and respect. I am old-fashioned and proud to be.
 
Well, my BF is 35. I'm 27. When we first met we couldn't keep our hands off each other. However, a couple years into it, a lot has changed. He is under major pressure/stress, we had to move in with him mom, we also have two dogs now. So, our sex life together has become pretty non-existent at the moment. I've talked to him about it because at first, like you, I felt like he wasn't attracted to me anymore (we're so busy and together all the time I knew it wasn't another woman). After having a few talks with him about this, it truly is the fact that there is just too much going on right now. There's this lawsuit he's involved in that's coming up for trial in December, there's his mom who lives directly above us, and then there's the two dogs who well, just don't do so well with sex. We can't put the dogs out because well, then his mom wonders what's going on, we don't want her to hear us and that just makes it uncomfortable knowing she's in the house, and then there's just the stresses and everyday pressures added to it. This is a temporary thing for us, as it may be a temporary thing for you and your BF. Sounds like he's just trying to get his life figured out. For some men, this is a huge thing and can weigh pretty heavy on their mind. I'm sure he wants to be able to provide for you and a possible future family.

We're hoping that by the end of the year and after the trial that we'll be ready to move into a place of our own where things can go back to normal. But, if you love your boyfriend, and you're sure that there's nothing else going on then just stick by his side and help him get through whatever funk he may be in. If you don't think you can live without it for awhile (sex isn't everything), then move on find someone else.
 
He's had enough sex with you to the point where it's been enough.
Couples always go through this - they start the relationship, they have sex like crazy, then it dies down after so many times. The interest in doing it has bottomed out.

There's nothing wrong with you - he just wants to focus on making himself better for the long run. And by the way you put it, he loves you.

If you suspect he's cheating on you, ask him and get a truthful response. He should tell you what is going on to ensure the trust. But I doubt he's cheating. It just doesn't sound like it - he's busy with his own obligations.
 
Girls sometimes dont understand that a guy has alot of worries... such as work/career/ "bringing in the bread" is a thing that a "man" must do... if that isnt going well... in the back of his mind he is worrying about it... trying to make everything better for the future... I was feeling like that but it did change when my financial/career situation changed...the drive will come back... when all his ducks are in a row.. or definately getting there... you understand?.... I hope so... Men ARE horndogs but a real man worries about these things, even being brought up old fashioned is very possible, morals etc... it CAN bring respect down... just as long as he knows you love him he will give you 100 percent... unless he is a no shamed player...it is also possible he is attracted to another woman... thats when you make sure you do stuff to keep him.. if hes worth it to u... Good luck.
 
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