My son is 2 and a half and his behaviour can sometimes be awful. He throws tantrums says I dont like you mummy and just screams until he gets his own way. Today I witnessed the worst tantrum yet he just screamed hysterical for about 5 minutes and wouldnt calm down to the point where I thought he was going to go into a fit. This was because I wouldnt let him handle our 8 week old puppy
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2 year old, tantrums and naughty behaviour please help?
- Thread starter sjw2011
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I am a father of 2 boys (12 and 4) and have had this situation in the past.
A lot of parents don't like to discipline their children but I had to as my son was throwing tantrums and it was upsetting for my wife.
I would never give into him if he was throwing a tantrum (tough love) and act very sad myself, this did not seem to work at first but after a few times he knew he upset me.
After he had calmed down I would ask him strait, why did you act like that?
To which he would reply, I wanted to (for example) hold the puppy, I would then say did you get to hold the puppy when you acted like that. No.
Well try asking nicely next time and you might be able to hold him.
I now have nice children who understand they can not have what they want when they want it.
A lot of parents don't like to discipline their children but I had to as my son was throwing tantrums and it was upsetting for my wife.
I would never give into him if he was throwing a tantrum (tough love) and act very sad myself, this did not seem to work at first but after a few times he knew he upset me.
After he had calmed down I would ask him strait, why did you act like that?
To which he would reply, I wanted to (for example) hold the puppy, I would then say did you get to hold the puppy when you acted like that. No.
Well try asking nicely next time and you might be able to hold him.
I now have nice children who understand they can not have what they want when they want it.
he probably says he doesnt like you because he either feels that way at the moment or he knows that it hurts your feelings. If he screams until he gets his way its pretty important that you do not give in. That just teaches him that screaming like that works. separate him from the activity and let him know that in no way will his tantrums get him the desired result. Dont be afraid to put him in his room until his tantrum is over. The more you react to it the more he going to do it. It may get worse before it gets better but if you ignore the tantrum eventually he will get the point.
Lexi - eschew obfuscation
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Don't give him his own way.
If he's naughty, put him in a naughty corner/naughty step until he calms down and says sorry. If he continues the behaviour then put him in his bedroom for 5-10 mins. Make sure there's nothing for him to play with, and as you take him up you explain what he did wrong. When you bring him back out, explain again why he went to his room, then allow him to say sorry and kiss/cuddle you.
He'll realise that naughty behaviour is not tolerated. There's no point in threatening and not following through. It's difficult, and for a couple of days he'll probably end up in the naughty corner/bedroom quite a lot. However it will be worth it when his behaviour improves.
Our daughter is 2 yrs 7 months old, and she's had tantrums where she's bright red, kicking her bedroom door and screaming at the top of her voice like I was murdering her. It doesn't work, and she usually comes out in a better mood afterwards. Most of the time she just needs a quick stint in the naughty corner (about once a week) as a reminder not to be naughty as she knows if she goes too far she'll be sent to her room.
If he's naughty, put him in a naughty corner/naughty step until he calms down and says sorry. If he continues the behaviour then put him in his bedroom for 5-10 mins. Make sure there's nothing for him to play with, and as you take him up you explain what he did wrong. When you bring him back out, explain again why he went to his room, then allow him to say sorry and kiss/cuddle you.
He'll realise that naughty behaviour is not tolerated. There's no point in threatening and not following through. It's difficult, and for a couple of days he'll probably end up in the naughty corner/bedroom quite a lot. However it will be worth it when his behaviour improves.
Our daughter is 2 yrs 7 months old, and she's had tantrums where she's bright red, kicking her bedroom door and screaming at the top of her voice like I was murdering her. It doesn't work, and she usually comes out in a better mood afterwards. Most of the time she just needs a quick stint in the naughty corner (about once a week) as a reminder not to be naughty as she knows if she goes too far she'll be sent to her room.