Recent content by Olin

Sorry, I wasn't able to reply. I was out of city on holiday and didn't have access to the internet. I appreciate all the replies. You gave me strenght to do the right thing. My father didn't call me whole week because he knew i was away. He will probably call me or show up at my work tomorrow...

Thank you Secrets1983. I keep reminding myself that this is better for him. I really felt bad after saying no. I could clearly see his disappointment.

Guys.. Just to let you know that my father passed away today. The last time i saw him was three weeks ago. I really feel bad that i couldn't see him one last time. I also feel bad for turning him down the last time i saw him. You can't imagine how bad i feel. We never had a good relationship but...

reachout, I'm glad you posted. Thank you. I can't see things from my dad's side since i've never been addicted to anything other than diet soda all my life (I don't know if it is even called an addiction) I don't even smoke so i can't really understand my father. So, I really don't know how an...

Thank you all for your replies. You really helped me. Yes, i am an only child. My mom got remarried and moved away when i was 20. She never wanted to do anything with my father after the divorce. I can't blame her because she wanted to help him many times but she was used just like me. He...

Sorry for not updating. I'm okay. I feel better now. My father showed up at my work again a few times and asked for money. I turned him down. He was like "Oh no.. what am i gonna do now?" He looked completely shocked and very very sad. It was really hard for me but i had to do this. He used to...

I don't think he will be coming anymore. I told him that if he needed something my uncle had to call me from now on. But, who knows? He might show up again. His brother said that he lost his job and unable to take care of my father properly right now, i guess this is why he wanted me to give him...

I will definitely get the book you recommend ReD4Life. I need all the emotional help i can get. Well, i said he wouldn't be calling right anymore, right? Well.. I was wrong, just two days later, today he's non stop calling me for more money. I answered his first phone call thinking he would be...

I didn't know where to write this because it includes both alcoholism and cancer. But, the alcoholism is the main problem here so I'm writing here. My alcoholic father announced that he had larynx cancer 6 months ago. It wasn't so surprising to me as I always wondered how he was still so...

Thank you all again.. Just a quick update.. I actually researched a lot and educated myself on this issue, I now see our actions didn't really help my father. I remeraber mom would always clean up after him, she worked two jobs to make up for his lack of income, he could never realize he had a...

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