So did mine. No matter what, your mom dosn't want you to go anywhere. Take care of your mom ! she cares about you. But do what you have to do also. Make mom proud.
WHO CARES ABOUT NJROTC it is a joke of a program and nothing you do in it will assist you in the real military except calling us sir and ma'am. they have substandard instructors that cant even teach a proper salute. Go into either one. If you like the ocean go navy if you like the NOT ocean go Army.
You need to locate your area VSO veterans services officer and CHECK IN with them. they are usually located in the courthouse of most larger cities, It makes no difference what your home of record was. Its a federal program anyway.