sometimes it's not about how the person looks. In terms of fighting, if you use your head, you can use your own developed techniques to grapple someone. A friend of mine, grappled one time with me and tried to choke using both hands but my neck is strong. If I flex, he still failed to cut off...
You are right in many ways. I agree 100%, your wife and kids seem to be your main focus and whenever you say these life stories or contact people to check up on them, it's like don't bother me. So let's save it and focus on what's needed right? If you forget your family, i guess you could say...