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Like, *really* creepy. He's younger than me. I know he had a rough time when he was a kid, but his way of dealing with it was to develop a completely fake personality. My other brother commented on this for the first time recently, in private. I thought I was the only one who thought this.
It's like hanging around a bad actor. He's got a fake smile, fake laugh. He's tense all the time - you never get the sense that he just relaxes. Which I'd feel easier about if he weren't such a prlck. He's also passive-aggressive, and sometimes just aggressive. Perverse - picks fights, sticks to a point like a bulldog lawyer beyond any human feeling. As in, his interest isn't in a mutually satisfying outcome. He *just* cares about winning.
His very presence creeps me out. I saw him do some very bad acting around my mother, and it turned my stomach. If it wasn't clear he was going for 'good son', I'd have thought he was being sarcastic, it was so... dunno... fake.
I used to think he was just sensitive, and was tolerant of what I saw as his quirks. I hadn't spent much time with him, but now I see that there's something off about him. Unpleasant off, not just anxious or goofy.
I honestly think that if conditions were right, he'd snap in a scary way.
I can't see what I can do about it - he's in his late twenties now. And frankly, I can't stand him. But I do have a very slight feeling that I ought to try. (But then I'm like, no, he's effing creepy.) Have I said 'creepy' enough times to convey what I'm feeling?
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Also, is there a name for this kind of behaviour (or indeed, personality)?
Vanee: thanks
it's not that he's always unhinged... it's just there's a feeling of insincerity. He feels really *studied*. I don't know how to start thinking about it. (Last time I lived in the same city as him, he was 12.)
He's good enough at this to fool his dozens of friends (many of whom aren't as bright as he is). In fact he's worked really hard to build a wide network of people. He never stays long at family functions, to be with his friends.
Brother 2 says he's practically memorized books on dating - something called 'the game' or 'the rules' or something, which is about picking up women via applied misogyny.
He was bullied as a kid. He's been single most of his life. I guess he used to be every girl's friend, but got sick of it.
What's strange is he really cannot seem to relax and be himself around anyone. Not just with family - I've seen him 'fake smile' with his friends.
I can understand ' anxious, depressive, OCD even narcissistic/bipolar types. Not seen anything
like this - it's not quite autistic - too skilled - but not quite right.
Thanks all. Miki & Teand... , I think you're on the right track.
It's like hanging around a bad actor. He's got a fake smile, fake laugh. He's tense all the time - you never get the sense that he just relaxes. Which I'd feel easier about if he weren't such a prlck. He's also passive-aggressive, and sometimes just aggressive. Perverse - picks fights, sticks to a point like a bulldog lawyer beyond any human feeling. As in, his interest isn't in a mutually satisfying outcome. He *just* cares about winning.
His very presence creeps me out. I saw him do some very bad acting around my mother, and it turned my stomach. If it wasn't clear he was going for 'good son', I'd have thought he was being sarcastic, it was so... dunno... fake.
I used to think he was just sensitive, and was tolerant of what I saw as his quirks. I hadn't spent much time with him, but now I see that there's something off about him. Unpleasant off, not just anxious or goofy.
I honestly think that if conditions were right, he'd snap in a scary way.
I can't see what I can do about it - he's in his late twenties now. And frankly, I can't stand him. But I do have a very slight feeling that I ought to try. (But then I'm like, no, he's effing creepy.) Have I said 'creepy' enough times to convey what I'm feeling?
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Also, is there a name for this kind of behaviour (or indeed, personality)?
Vanee: thanks
it's not that he's always unhinged... it's just there's a feeling of insincerity. He feels really *studied*. I don't know how to start thinking about it. (Last time I lived in the same city as him, he was 12.)He's good enough at this to fool his dozens of friends (many of whom aren't as bright as he is). In fact he's worked really hard to build a wide network of people. He never stays long at family functions, to be with his friends.
Brother 2 says he's practically memorized books on dating - something called 'the game' or 'the rules' or something, which is about picking up women via applied misogyny.
He was bullied as a kid. He's been single most of his life. I guess he used to be every girl's friend, but got sick of it.
What's strange is he really cannot seem to relax and be himself around anyone. Not just with family - I've seen him 'fake smile' with his friends.
I can understand ' anxious, depressive, OCD even narcissistic/bipolar types. Not seen anything
like this - it's not quite autistic - too skilled - but not quite right.
Thanks all. Miki & Teand... , I think you're on the right track.