I asked my boyfriend if he has ever hit a woman and he immediately said yes. He said he was 19 and had an argument with his girlfriend and asked her to leave his apartment. He then went to the bathroom and when he came out she was waiting right outside the door and punched him in the jaw as soon at the door opened...he said his immediate reaction was to swing back and that floored her. And before he knew it, she grabbed a hand full of his manhood and squeezed...he said he kept hitting her in the head until she let go...then he told her to leave again and she grabbed his manhood again...and he hit her again until she let go. After that she went into his kitchen and he heard glass breaking, but chose to not go into the kitchen fear of having glass thrown at him. Then she came at him with a Chef's knife. He said that after she swiped at him, he grabbed her hand and began slamming her into the wall until she dropped the knife...then he forceably pushed her out the door and locked it behind him.
I asked why didn't he just pick her up and restrain her...he said that they were about equal weight (although she is shorter), and they both studied martial arts together at the time and she could hold her own. And they had been taught to fight with knives, so while she wasn't a knife fighting expert, she did have formal training.
I asked if he called the police, and he said no...she did. I asked if he went to jail, and he said no...the laws were diffrerent back then. Back then the first person to throw a punch was committing assault and the assaulted party could defend themselves. He said that she later told him that the police refused to take the report, because if they did they would have been forced to take her to jail & he had called they would have to come back and arrest her.
I asked him if he would do it again under the same circumstances. He said, "If a woman my size with formal martial arts training hit me unprovoked by obvious physical aggression on my part...and/or had a weapon in her hand...I would beat her azz like a man...and deal with the consequences. I'd rather be a live man in court for domestic abuse than a dead man in a grave with a tombstone saying that I'm a gentleman."
We've been together for 2 years, and he has never as much as raised his voice to me.
I asked why didn't he just pick her up and restrain her...he said that they were about equal weight (although she is shorter), and they both studied martial arts together at the time and she could hold her own. And they had been taught to fight with knives, so while she wasn't a knife fighting expert, she did have formal training.
I asked if he called the police, and he said no...she did. I asked if he went to jail, and he said no...the laws were diffrerent back then. Back then the first person to throw a punch was committing assault and the assaulted party could defend themselves. He said that she later told him that the police refused to take the report, because if they did they would have been forced to take her to jail & he had called they would have to come back and arrest her.
I asked him if he would do it again under the same circumstances. He said, "If a woman my size with formal martial arts training hit me unprovoked by obvious physical aggression on my part...and/or had a weapon in her hand...I would beat her azz like a man...and deal with the consequences. I'd rather be a live man in court for domestic abuse than a dead man in a grave with a tombstone saying that I'm a gentleman."
We've been together for 2 years, and he has never as much as raised his voice to me.