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harder
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...grandchildren"? She said she has changed her ways and love her grandchildren.... & want to be in their lives.... would you forgive and forget?
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Would you forgive your mother in law if she said "i dont want any chocolate...
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brandi b
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Hell to the no how mean and ugly is that.
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bad girl
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Ok I am about to sound real ignorant but to me your avatar looks white - which would make your mother in law potentially black. Does she have an issue with herself, if she hates herself that's something she will just have to get over.
I would say allow her to spend time with the kids but initially monitor the visits. Don't start by dropping the kids off at grandma's while you and wifey head to the movies. You want to see her interaction with your children prior to trusting her alone, I would also recommend that the kids are of talking age before leaving them alone with grandma, just so that if she says something out of line you can speak to your kids about it prior to them getting a complex.
Hatred is taught and ignorance is at times genetic. Protect your kids you only have one opportunity to raise them properly and hate free.
Good Luck
I would say allow her to spend time with the kids but initially monitor the visits. Don't start by dropping the kids off at grandma's while you and wifey head to the movies. You want to see her interaction with your children prior to trusting her alone, I would also recommend that the kids are of talking age before leaving them alone with grandma, just so that if she says something out of line you can speak to your kids about it prior to them getting a complex.
Hatred is taught and ignorance is at times genetic. Protect your kids you only have one opportunity to raise them properly and hate free.
Good Luck
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Heidi 4
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Absolutely you should forgive and forget. Not only for your mother-in-law's sake but more importantly for your own sake and the sake of your children.
Un-forgiveness is ugly and harmful. People grow up with a lot of misconceptions and when they are open minded and learn to overcome they are worthy of respect.
Un-forgiveness is ugly and harmful. People grow up with a lot of misconceptions and when they are open minded and learn to overcome they are worthy of respect.
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OutBackBob
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You have to let it go. Everybody makes mistakes. Her stupid point of view is probably just something she was taught, and now she's learned better. That's a good thing. Haven't we all believed stupid things at some point in our lives?
You might send her some white chocolate along with the invitation to visit ;-)
You might send her some white chocolate along with the invitation to visit ;-)
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Lunaeclipz
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I would have a hard time forgiving someone for that comment.
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susan
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How do u forgive someone so ignorant, not even giving a child a chance,race aside, same blood flowing through the veins, some people don't have to be in your life just because they are family. Would you allow a child molester who was your ' BROTHER " AROUND YOUR CHILDREN, just because he is your brother.
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a.t.
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Yes, have to. If she's sincere then doesn't hurt to try... Some people get stuck in their ways, but once they come out of it, it's usually ok... Give her a shot, you know if she's sincere or not...
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bunnyblue
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yes any day takes some one a long time to get over things like that my parents have said if i chocolate baby's they will disown me but people have there own lives and opinions.
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candymom419
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yes, grandchildren have a way of totally changing the way in laws are parents think. Now she knows first hand that love knows no color. Before she couldnt accept it cause she didnt feel it. If she says she's changed, i'd believe her. Go welcome her into your family and give her a big hug!
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LaLa
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Honestly, yes, I would forgive her. I think the grandkids will teach her a lot. I also think she will eat her words.
Just because you forgive doesn't mean that you condone what she said. I really think she will regret her words. You can teach her a lot here.
Just because you forgive doesn't mean that you condone what she said. I really think she will regret her words. You can teach her a lot here.