Worried about dropping out of university, again?

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i dropped out of university last year just within 2 months in the university of my first year.(i did not live at uni)
i suffer from heavy depression and anxiety when i go through alot and the workload was too much pressure and i decided to take a year out to get my mind focused. i will be starting uni again this year but im still quiet nervous cos ive already dropped out before. what can i do to help myself and build confidence to think i can just do it. i will also be living at home while commuting to another city which is like an hour and half away from mine.
 
Chin up. If you think you'll drop out, you are more likely to talk yourself into it.

I'm sure there are health services on campus where you go. You should make an appointment to speak to a doctor there about your depression and anxiety. 1 in 5 people suffer from mental illnesses. When you're sitting in your classes think about that, think about how a 5th of these students are going through something similar but they're here like you.

If you think your work load is too much you could apply for part time study. In New Zealand (where I live) if you have a medical reason you are able to study part time but still be considered a full time student. It could be helpful for you until you feel more settled.

Just talk to the people next to you in classes, say hello and ask them what they're studying.

Know when you need to take a break and rest from your studies. Don't be worried to ask for help there are heaps of people at the University who are there to help, some of your fees go towards them being there!

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Sometimes it doesn't help to take too much time because, I know that when I have time, it can be wasted rather than bottled for later use.

I'm sorry for the long commute you have to go through and hope it isn't during unpleasant hours like peak time. It might make the trip to campus more worthwhile if you do a little something pleasant whilst you are there. I don't know what you like to do but talking a walk, sunning/reading in a park, having a coffee etc. are some of the things that might help. If you wake up with the goal of getting in and out as fast as possible then it'll be draining because it is going to take about 5 hours anyway (I'm thinking the commute and a 2 hour class).

A friend of mine had an excellent practice of choosing his essay topics as soon as possible for each subject, so that once the lecture/class on that topic happened he could start writing immediately. This way he had a leisurely pace of producing roughly 1 essay a month, unlike myself who was faced with producing 3 essays in one month. He did this because he knew his limits and staggering his workload helped him to reduce his stress and produce better work.

One last thing I hope is useful is to know that there is a broad range of normal performance which is good enough. I see all the time that people who had expectations that their work was sharp, or particularly insightful etc. can be very dissappointed to receive less than stellar grades. So even though it is nice to put in an outstanding performance if you are just staying afloat grades-wise but still in there that should be the acceptable standard.

Good luck.
 
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I highly recommend it, good luck.
 
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