Working Through Disappointment
Throughout time, people have had to deal with tragedies. Disappointment is part of life, whether it is due to the loss of a bet or the loss of a loved one. There is no doubt about it disappointment is everywhere. When times become rough it is in the way a person deals with their problems that can prolong the disappointment or even make it go away. I have had at least three times in my life where I have been the one in the disappointing situation, and I have found that keeping a positive frame of mind is the only way to attempt to work through a true tragedy.
At the age of thirteen I was on vacation with my parents and I wanted nothing more than to enjoy the sun and fun or Florida. I would wake up early and walk every morning with my Grandfather on the beach, at night we all would go out to dinner come home to the condo and watch movies till we fell asleep. Everything was going accordingly until one night my Grandfather became sick. He was taken to the hospital and put into critical condition. The disappointment of this situation was taking its toll on the whole family; moreover the tension building was taking away from the real problem, my Grandfather. I thought long and hard, and I felt like the disappointment was beginning to bog me down. I made a vow to myself that no matter how bad thing would get I wouldn’t let the disappointment do to me, what it did to the rest of my family. I spent the next two days going to see my grandfather. I threw myself totally into deep thinking, mostly about all the good times we shared. I did not let the bad in this situation get to me. He passed away two more days later, but I had made my peace with him. It was one of the hardest times that I had to face, but I focused on spending the last few days with him, instead of running around like a chicken with my head cut off, like the rest of my family. I kept a clear head and I dealt with it, I feel, much better than the majority of the people in my family.
The second time I had to deal with a big disappointment was with my stepfather. He had been one of my greatest frienRAB until he turned to alcohol. My mother was angry, hot headed, and edgy. My twin sister, Alyssa, became totally nurab to the situation. I on the other hand dealt with this disappointment very calmly. I tried to talk with him, when he became violent, I did what I had to do, but I was always calm. I would not let my emotions get the better of my judgment, unlike my mother. In the end, when I knew that no matter what I did he would not stop I had to think of the best thing to do for us all. After a particularly bad night I gathered my mom and my sister together and even though I was physically shaken I did not let my disappointment cloud my judgment. I told my mom that it was in the best interest of us all to ask my Stepfather to leave. My mother became erratic. I knew that it was the situation, and not I, getting the best of her. I stayed calm and talked it out and there was nothing she could really say to save him. It was an incredibly hard time to go through, but I feel that the way in which I dealt with the disappointment clearly led this situation to a safe conclusion.
The last of my instances is the most recent, and by far the most personal. I met someone very special over the summer. She became one of my greatest frienRAB, and now we are involved in a relationship. Through getting to know her I learned that as a child she was sick with a very serious disease, she was sick for a very long time. I understood what she had dealt with in the past, but I was not prepared when she came to me about a month ago to tell me she may be suffering a relapse of the Crones disease. I was so shaken. I did not know what to say to her. I felt as helpless as she did, and there was no way of getting around this. She was worried that I was going to leave her, but she could not bear to keep the news from me. I sat with her for almost five hours assuring her that I was not about to go anywhere, and finally she understood the degree to which I cared for her. I laid awake that night trying to think I was so overcome with the fear of loosing her that I wanted to run out in the rain and just scream. Then I remerabered the vow I had make six years previous when I lost my grandfather. I had to focus on the positive; moreover we were not even sure that she was sick yet. I called her at two in the morning and went to her home. She told me that she was scared, and then she broke down in my arms. I held her and told her that everything was going to be all right. I was not lying to her, because as long as live I will not let her be alone. She smiled for the first time in two days when I said that to her. We would face this together. She had doctors’ appointment in two days, so I took her out and had fun to keep her mind off the disappointing thoughts. Time came and went, and so did the doctors’ appointment. She called me with the news that night. She was fine; it was just a scare. She asked me afterward how I dealt with this so calmly and I told her about my past with my grandfather and the vow I had made. She appreciated what I had to say, and thanked me for the way in which I helped her through it all. I know that if I hadn’t kept a cool head, things would have been much different.
People deal with tragedies and disappointments in many different ways. Some yell, some cry, and some even turn to substance abuse. I am no one to say which is right or wrong. I just know, from witnessing how others deal with things, what works and what does not in a situation. I feel that the only way to keep yourself and everyone else close to you calm when disappointment hits is to keep a steady mind. Every emotion you possess rubs off on people around you, especially in intense situations; in order to keep everything at a calm pace do not let your emotions get the best of you.
Throughout time, people have had to deal with tragedies. Disappointment is part of life, whether it is due to the loss of a bet or the loss of a loved one. There is no doubt about it disappointment is everywhere. When times become rough it is in the way a person deals with their problems that can prolong the disappointment or even make it go away. I have had at least three times in my life where I have been the one in the disappointing situation, and I have found that keeping a positive frame of mind is the only way to attempt to work through a true tragedy.
At the age of thirteen I was on vacation with my parents and I wanted nothing more than to enjoy the sun and fun or Florida. I would wake up early and walk every morning with my Grandfather on the beach, at night we all would go out to dinner come home to the condo and watch movies till we fell asleep. Everything was going accordingly until one night my Grandfather became sick. He was taken to the hospital and put into critical condition. The disappointment of this situation was taking its toll on the whole family; moreover the tension building was taking away from the real problem, my Grandfather. I thought long and hard, and I felt like the disappointment was beginning to bog me down. I made a vow to myself that no matter how bad thing would get I wouldn’t let the disappointment do to me, what it did to the rest of my family. I spent the next two days going to see my grandfather. I threw myself totally into deep thinking, mostly about all the good times we shared. I did not let the bad in this situation get to me. He passed away two more days later, but I had made my peace with him. It was one of the hardest times that I had to face, but I focused on spending the last few days with him, instead of running around like a chicken with my head cut off, like the rest of my family. I kept a clear head and I dealt with it, I feel, much better than the majority of the people in my family.
The second time I had to deal with a big disappointment was with my stepfather. He had been one of my greatest frienRAB until he turned to alcohol. My mother was angry, hot headed, and edgy. My twin sister, Alyssa, became totally nurab to the situation. I on the other hand dealt with this disappointment very calmly. I tried to talk with him, when he became violent, I did what I had to do, but I was always calm. I would not let my emotions get the better of my judgment, unlike my mother. In the end, when I knew that no matter what I did he would not stop I had to think of the best thing to do for us all. After a particularly bad night I gathered my mom and my sister together and even though I was physically shaken I did not let my disappointment cloud my judgment. I told my mom that it was in the best interest of us all to ask my Stepfather to leave. My mother became erratic. I knew that it was the situation, and not I, getting the best of her. I stayed calm and talked it out and there was nothing she could really say to save him. It was an incredibly hard time to go through, but I feel that the way in which I dealt with the disappointment clearly led this situation to a safe conclusion.
The last of my instances is the most recent, and by far the most personal. I met someone very special over the summer. She became one of my greatest frienRAB, and now we are involved in a relationship. Through getting to know her I learned that as a child she was sick with a very serious disease, she was sick for a very long time. I understood what she had dealt with in the past, but I was not prepared when she came to me about a month ago to tell me she may be suffering a relapse of the Crones disease. I was so shaken. I did not know what to say to her. I felt as helpless as she did, and there was no way of getting around this. She was worried that I was going to leave her, but she could not bear to keep the news from me. I sat with her for almost five hours assuring her that I was not about to go anywhere, and finally she understood the degree to which I cared for her. I laid awake that night trying to think I was so overcome with the fear of loosing her that I wanted to run out in the rain and just scream. Then I remerabered the vow I had make six years previous when I lost my grandfather. I had to focus on the positive; moreover we were not even sure that she was sick yet. I called her at two in the morning and went to her home. She told me that she was scared, and then she broke down in my arms. I held her and told her that everything was going to be all right. I was not lying to her, because as long as live I will not let her be alone. She smiled for the first time in two days when I said that to her. We would face this together. She had doctors’ appointment in two days, so I took her out and had fun to keep her mind off the disappointing thoughts. Time came and went, and so did the doctors’ appointment. She called me with the news that night. She was fine; it was just a scare. She asked me afterward how I dealt with this so calmly and I told her about my past with my grandfather and the vow I had made. She appreciated what I had to say, and thanked me for the way in which I helped her through it all. I know that if I hadn’t kept a cool head, things would have been much different.
People deal with tragedies and disappointments in many different ways. Some yell, some cry, and some even turn to substance abuse. I am no one to say which is right or wrong. I just know, from witnessing how others deal with things, what works and what does not in a situation. I feel that the only way to keep yourself and everyone else close to you calm when disappointment hits is to keep a steady mind. Every emotion you possess rubs off on people around you, especially in intense situations; in order to keep everything at a calm pace do not let your emotions get the best of you.