Will this work for dodging the friendzone?

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Jake

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Background: I met her through another female friend of mine (lets call her L). We hit it off great, had heaps in common, talked all the time, hanged out every weekend and got extremely close. She was perfect and i thought it was a miracle i met her. Anyway, she put me in the friend zone when i tried to move further, and SO for my final school prom i took a girl who had a romantic interest in me instead.
So when L finds out im taking another girl instead, because i didnt want to just have a 'friend hangout' at my damn prom, she totally flips, says we cant see each other and says i hurt her real badly. (I know right?)

Now, we fell out of communication, its been 7 and a half months and i havent talked nor seen her. Now it just so happens she texted me the other day and we casually talked, and she told me shes going to the same place as me for New Years eve.

SO: my question is, do i play it cool and scarcely text her? so we dont become close? and then move in at new years when we meet up again. or get close and text her etc? 7 and a half months was plenty time to get out of the friend zone, and she is showing interest over text, but which one will play it safer? God i hate the FZ.

P.S: i know shes weird, i dont know why she freaked out at me to start with. she is perfect, but perfectly complicated all the same. xD I believe i can move in for the kill on New Years, but just cant decide on my plan of attack for the mean time. Thoughts?
The new years eve countdown kiss is such a wicked idea. Totally sold on that. xD
 
Okay, she obviously wants to speak to you and obviously had/has feelings for you. Try asking her to be your new years kiss at the countdown or even don't ask her, just be talking to her on the countdown and then kiss her, that should work.

Text her up till then, get close again, if she is perfect in your eyes then that is what counts and you should go for it!
 
Don't assume that she's interested just cause you went to the prom with someone else and she got jealous. There could be a whole list of things that made her get jealous like just the fact that you were enjoying yourself and she wasn't. Try telling her you're sorry for upsetting her at the prom and let her know that you like her but took the other girl because you thought she wasn't interested in you romantically and she may come clean and admit she likes you or she may apologise for being a complete nutcase and getting jealous coz another girl was with her friend. For example -

One of my best friends is a guy who once told me that he loved me but I never felt that way about him. We kissed once and it didn't feel right so it never went further and I know he still wishes it had but I wouldn't want to lie to him about it. We're still very good friends and it hasn't stopped us going out with other people and yes I do get jealous when he shows interest in another girl but that's because I'm losing the attention of one of my friends, nothing more. It's the same when any of my girl friends settle down and don't want to hang out as much.
 
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