Sarah Rutherford
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I'm so confused.
I'm really attracted, at least physically, to girls.
But maybe it's because I've never met the right person, but I've never felt an emotional, romantic attraction to another girl. I mean, I kinda liked this girl once but it was a totally inappropriate situation, I could never, ever have dated her and she was older than me.
With males, I physically don't find them that attractive. I mean don't get me wrong, I still find some guys "cute" or "hot" but they just don't appeal to me the same way girls do.
Conversely, males attract me more emotionally. I mean, I have a bit of a crush on this guy right now. Physically, there's not much appeal to him. There's a little, but not a lot. However I really like his personality. He's smart and funny and seems to, I don't know, get me.
I really hate the common female personality. I hate what all the girls talk about at school ("OMG nail polish! Gossip! Jersey Shore LOL!".) so that's what makes me wonder if it's just a case of meeting the right person and maybe I do have an emotional attraction to girls.
I've also always been told I'm mature for my age (I'm 16 at the moment). Maturity wise, boys are usually about 1-2 years more developed than females at this point in adolescence, so maybe when I'm older and the girls are more mature, I'd like them more.
I just hate being this confused sometimes. I'd really like to be able to say "I'm bi!" or "I'm straight!" or "I'm a lesbian!" (although I'd honestly just stick with straight until I finished high school, too much mocking would take place. My friends would probably all think I had crushes on them too... This one girl told people she thought she was bi in eighth grade and so many people teased her about it and said "Why don't you just choose one side?"). What are your thoughts? Should I just wait and see? Seems that's my only option... Do you think I'll ever get to a point where I know for sure?
It sometimes feels frustrating not being able to talk to anyone, so thanks Yahoo!
EDIT: Oh dear, I feel so stupid now. CJ, you're right. That study was regarding something else, although I hadn't actually looked at it since my mom gave me a copy of the article when I was 12 or 13...
I'm really attracted, at least physically, to girls.
But maybe it's because I've never met the right person, but I've never felt an emotional, romantic attraction to another girl. I mean, I kinda liked this girl once but it was a totally inappropriate situation, I could never, ever have dated her and she was older than me.
With males, I physically don't find them that attractive. I mean don't get me wrong, I still find some guys "cute" or "hot" but they just don't appeal to me the same way girls do.
Conversely, males attract me more emotionally. I mean, I have a bit of a crush on this guy right now. Physically, there's not much appeal to him. There's a little, but not a lot. However I really like his personality. He's smart and funny and seems to, I don't know, get me.
I really hate the common female personality. I hate what all the girls talk about at school ("OMG nail polish! Gossip! Jersey Shore LOL!".) so that's what makes me wonder if it's just a case of meeting the right person and maybe I do have an emotional attraction to girls.
I've also always been told I'm mature for my age (I'm 16 at the moment). Maturity wise, boys are usually about 1-2 years more developed than females at this point in adolescence, so maybe when I'm older and the girls are more mature, I'd like them more.
I just hate being this confused sometimes. I'd really like to be able to say "I'm bi!" or "I'm straight!" or "I'm a lesbian!" (although I'd honestly just stick with straight until I finished high school, too much mocking would take place. My friends would probably all think I had crushes on them too... This one girl told people she thought she was bi in eighth grade and so many people teased her about it and said "Why don't you just choose one side?"). What are your thoughts? Should I just wait and see? Seems that's my only option... Do you think I'll ever get to a point where I know for sure?
It sometimes feels frustrating not being able to talk to anyone, so thanks Yahoo!
EDIT: Oh dear, I feel so stupid now. CJ, you're right. That study was regarding something else, although I hadn't actually looked at it since my mom gave me a copy of the article when I was 12 or 13...