Since kids 11 years ago she never initiates anything. Sex is only when I make her do it, and I can't wait any longer. Even then, it's a task to her - get it over with so she can go to sleep, or do something else. I'm tired of waiting for her to do something about it. Have tried doing more around the house, she just uses whatever free time I make for her, to find other things to do and never makes time for our sex life, or time together period, a priority. We do it maybe twice a week, but it's me doing all the work, she just bends and when over its on to the next household task. I tell her I'm gonna cheat because she doesnt care enough to do antyuing about it. She said several times, whatever! Do what you have to do.
I think about cheating almost every day, but see, I have this belief that cheating is wrong and you can go to hell for it. We have two kids, 10, 11. What I need most of for her to care enough to see a doctor or counselar, do something about it. Her favorite thing is shopping, loves it. Comes home with a bag every day. I'm always there to clean up whatever mess she leaves, the house, finances, etc. She was abused growing up by her father but went to counseling and I even went with her. Yes it will always be part of her, but life has to go on. I can';t ignore my own needs because of what happened to her 30 years ago.
She takes great care of the kids, the dog, food for us. But affection, love, sex don't happen. I don't think I'm gonna last much longer and I don't want to drag my kids though a life without a Mom and a Dad at home to care for them. I can't do that to them. I'd cheat but its temporary and I don't wanna go to hell. I'm trapped and don't deserve this fate. I love sex and need it, crave it. I'll even go as far as to say that she is well built and I want HER. But I'm top the point now that I want ANY woman. I sit in traffic and see women that are attractive and wonder to myself. When we first met we were all over each other and both loved sex, and I still do. Nothing changed for me. It all started when the kids came. After that, it just crashed, and has not been the same since. 11 years now. I lie awake at night, I wake up early, day after day. Weekends are torture. Can't watch TV all the ttime. I try to lock the bedroom door to spend time with her - she says not while kids are awake..it's too early, it's too late, I'm tired, not right now. It happens, but shes not into it, commits no emotion, and could honestly just plain live without it. Leaves me bitter. Testosterone cream? Sex therapy?
I think about cheating almost every day, but see, I have this belief that cheating is wrong and you can go to hell for it. We have two kids, 10, 11. What I need most of for her to care enough to see a doctor or counselar, do something about it. Her favorite thing is shopping, loves it. Comes home with a bag every day. I'm always there to clean up whatever mess she leaves, the house, finances, etc. She was abused growing up by her father but went to counseling and I even went with her. Yes it will always be part of her, but life has to go on. I can';t ignore my own needs because of what happened to her 30 years ago.
She takes great care of the kids, the dog, food for us. But affection, love, sex don't happen. I don't think I'm gonna last much longer and I don't want to drag my kids though a life without a Mom and a Dad at home to care for them. I can't do that to them. I'd cheat but its temporary and I don't wanna go to hell. I'm trapped and don't deserve this fate. I love sex and need it, crave it. I'll even go as far as to say that she is well built and I want HER. But I'm top the point now that I want ANY woman. I sit in traffic and see women that are attractive and wonder to myself. When we first met we were all over each other and both loved sex, and I still do. Nothing changed for me. It all started when the kids came. After that, it just crashed, and has not been the same since. 11 years now. I lie awake at night, I wake up early, day after day. Weekends are torture. Can't watch TV all the ttime. I try to lock the bedroom door to spend time with her - she says not while kids are awake..it's too early, it's too late, I'm tired, not right now. It happens, but shes not into it, commits no emotion, and could honestly just plain live without it. Leaves me bitter. Testosterone cream? Sex therapy?