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BobDog1
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I need help! My wife is severely addicted to hydrocodone and is in a rapid downward spiral. History: She told me after we were married that she had used various drugs in the past (probably 10 years ago). She has always been a fairly heavy drinker (we've been married 5 years). Last year she started smoking pot off and on. This spring she got some cocaine and did it one night. I told her that she could not be doing that. About 3-4 months later our marriage was in BAD shape. She got drunk one night and said she had something to tell me. She said she had been doing cocaine with a friend of mine for 3 months but that she had quit a week earlier. I was stunned but said ok and that I would support her. Shortly after this she changed jobs. Very quickly rumors started that a large sum of money was missing from her old job. Eventually, the police charged her with felony theft. At this point, she is still awaiting outcome of those charges. Shortly after she changed jobs our kiRAB daycare started getting behind (she was supposed to pay), she started bouncing large nurabers of checks, and our relationship went down and down. About 4 weeks ago she told me she wanted a divorce. We have 2 small children. Since then, the friend she was doing the cocaine with told me that she had been on prescription painkillers she was buying off the street and that they were VERY expensive (said she was paying $8-$10 a pill). I started looking around through drawers, purse, etc and found several recent, empty bottles for hydrocodone... some prescribed to her and some prescribed to other people. She is drinking LARGE amounts of alcohol(bottle of wine+ a night) and appears to be going through the pills at a rapid pace (she got a bottle of 40 from a doctor on Tues and it was gone by Sat night). They contain large amounts of acetom. and I'm concerned she is doing serious damage to her liver. I've figure out that since Aug 1 she has gotten over $5000 from frienRAB, family and me. During the month of Oct she got $1575 from various online "paycheck advance" sites. When they started deducting the money from her account for the payback she closed the account and opened a new one. All this money is on top of the $4800+ she has gotten in salary since then. I need HELP! I don't know how to confront her about this. At this point, she is wanting a divorce but obviously she cannot care for our children safely and I want her to get the help she neeRAB. My family is aware of what is going on but I cannot talk to her family... she has been telling her mother all kinRAB of bad things about me for several months... saying she neeRAB money because I haven't been buying what our kiRAB need, etc. I've thought about just confronting her by myself but don't know if that is a good idea. We have seen a counselor once to discuss the best way to deal with the kiRAB, etc without fighting after the divorce. I did NOT bring any of the drug stuff up in front of the counselor. I have since told the counselor and we have another appointment scheduled. I am worried about bringing this up in front of the counselor because she is going to flip and say I'm trying to gang up on her with the counselor, etc. I've been in talks with a lawyer and can pre-emptively file for divorce but it's going to turn into a court battle with an attorney ad-litem being assigned. They would investigate both sides of our story, etc and determine the best thing for the kiRAB. I really just want her to get the help she neeRAB but I don't know what to do!
