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prisma112
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I'm 25 years old and the past three months I've been rejected more times than I've ever been in my life. We're always together and have many of the same college classes, and he seems to desire my presence around him all the time. (he gets depressed or upset if I go do my own things and I'd rather him come along so it works out) but the past three months he initiates nothing, I have to do it and he'll say he's too tired.
So I tried talking to him about it and instead he said he's tired of getting his hopes up when I say I want to do things to him and don't. But I don't because he seems uninterested when we're able to fool around.
I tried to talk to him again because it has me to the point of tears. I'm tired of the awkward 'can we have sex?' or the uncomfortable nights where he says he's too tired and then gropes me when he's half asleep, and I can't act on it because I don't want to hurt him or make him feel violated.
So I tried talking to him again: that I want him to want me more often, and instead he said he was tired of getting his hopes up for nothing.
This we argued for about an hour and a half and I just got even more frustrated when the simple solution to our problems was if he just grabbed me then and there and got down to business.
But he still hasn't.
All in all yeah it would be nice for him to come home from the store or whatever and hammer down. I've tried texting him that I want to mess around when he's away then he comes home, we play video games and snuggle infront of a movie and nothing happens. So then he gets mad because I got his hopes up with nothing, but goddamnit it's been a really long time now and I just want him to initiate and make me feel desired instead of me having to ask outright instead of a creepo and essentially get rejected. It's hurting my self esteem and now I just cry about it because I have a boyfriend that won't sleep with me.
You kidding, thanks giving came around and we talked about how it would be nice to go to my parents huge house and mess around when no one was home. All week talked it up.
So the day comes, we got the entire day alone together and my 'hint' was to pounce him, pin him down and purr, then he says he's not in the mood.
I'm still confused here.
So I tried talking to him about it and instead he said he's tired of getting his hopes up when I say I want to do things to him and don't. But I don't because he seems uninterested when we're able to fool around.
I tried to talk to him again because it has me to the point of tears. I'm tired of the awkward 'can we have sex?' or the uncomfortable nights where he says he's too tired and then gropes me when he's half asleep, and I can't act on it because I don't want to hurt him or make him feel violated.
So I tried talking to him again: that I want him to want me more often, and instead he said he was tired of getting his hopes up for nothing.
This we argued for about an hour and a half and I just got even more frustrated when the simple solution to our problems was if he just grabbed me then and there and got down to business.
But he still hasn't.
All in all yeah it would be nice for him to come home from the store or whatever and hammer down. I've tried texting him that I want to mess around when he's away then he comes home, we play video games and snuggle infront of a movie and nothing happens. So then he gets mad because I got his hopes up with nothing, but goddamnit it's been a really long time now and I just want him to initiate and make me feel desired instead of me having to ask outright instead of a creepo and essentially get rejected. It's hurting my self esteem and now I just cry about it because I have a boyfriend that won't sleep with me.
You kidding, thanks giving came around and we talked about how it would be nice to go to my parents huge house and mess around when no one was home. All week talked it up.
So the day comes, we got the entire day alone together and my 'hint' was to pounce him, pin him down and purr, then he says he's not in the mood.
I'm still confused here.