frusthubby
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My wife only wants to have sex when she initiates contact. It gets really frustrating because she will tell me "no" constantly and I even tell her that I have a "Rule of 3" where if she turns me down 3 times in a row that I will just stop asking because I get tired of being rejected. There are times when she will tease me all day, act like she can't wait to jump in bed, then when we finally get there she rejects my advances and just rolls over and goes to sleep. When I get to the point that I just give up and stop showing interest, then all of a sudden she is crawling all over me and acting like she has to have it. Then she is ready to go when she decides she wants to initiate things and expects me to turn on my libido like a switch. I have told her many times that the rejection gets old and that I would like to be "the guy" every now and then rather than waiting for her to be the aggressor after she waits for me to get flustered and give up. She gets really angry when I tell her that she is only interested when she gets to be "the guy"/initiator, and will respond, "What it's wrong for the woman to be the one in charge!" To me it just feels like a big head game where she wants to see how sexually frustrated she can make me before I give up, then suddenly she becomes a nympho for a day or two. This cycle usually takes about 2 weeks to run its course then it starts all over again. But the bottom line is that my advances are always rejected and she has to be the one that is in full control of our sex life. It is so frustrating and leads to a ton of resentment. Thoughts and ideas?