Why is sex still hurting me?!?

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puree_sunshine

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I posted a question simular to this, but I figureded I'd add more details.

I lost my virginity two years ago, I've had multiple partners during that time period. Most of my friends noted that their pain stopped about the second or third time, except i'm way past that and after sex I feel symtoms I felt while I lost my virginity.

The pains always been there, sometimes worse then others, but I just noticed the extent of the pain tonight, This may be because, I wasn't as drunk as I usually am, I haven't had sex before tonight since the end of march, I do vaginal excercises to tighten everything up, or because I wasn't relaxed, he want very fast, I'm not really sure. Guy's always tell me i'm really tight and sometimes we have to stop because of pain or size.

Everytime I have sex I notice, the same pain i first felt, sometimes more mild depending on the size, & after wards it's hard to walk. Tonight was the first time in like 4 months, the guy jumped for it way to fast with no foreplay, and was a bit rougher, it still hurt when he took it slow, just not as bad, but when he went all the way in me, i couln't help but scream in pain, I was very tense as well.

however, there was plenty of lube, I tested negitive for bacterial stds, so am i just to tight, or could there be something wrong with me? Why is this happening?

Are there any tips to use, to relax more during sex and help me feel more comfortable? Am I going to have to losen up?

& as far as gynotoligy goes and getting it checked out, i'm getting a pelvic exam soon, idk what that is, but will that be good, and will they be able to see whats up?
 
if ur having that much tenderness....OMG ur gunna HATE that pelvic exam lemme just warn you. but it may be able to help you.

this may seem like a strange qestion but have you ever tried pleasing urself? because if it doesn't hurt when you do it to yourself, then it may just be the guys you've been with.

if it does hurt, then it could be plenty of things...worse case senario, you're just really sensitive like me. The slightest wrong more hurts like hell but nothing is wrong with me. Your body just needs to warm up to these things.

it could be something really bad like HPV or early signs of cervical cancer. it could be an ovarian problem. it could be tons of things. the pelvic exam should tell you some of this.
 
i just answered this a little while ago. i suggested lube. well tell him to take it easy on you, and don't put it in so much? and stop doing those darn exercises! and definitely go to the gyno. good luck :)
 
When it comes to sex, there are certain things that happen before you actually do it. For instance, for the male, they have an erection and they are good to go. But for a female, foreplay is key. If done correctly, the female becomes "wet." That is the natural lubrication for sex.

After reading your predicament, I would recommend a lubricant for him. It works for the both of you because you deal with his stuff so that you can experience more pleasure.

You just need to feel comfortable with sex. Don't think about it too much because that may be the cause for it. Sure hope that helped! Good luck.
 
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