why is my sex life boring?

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I have been with my husband for four years. The past 6 months to a year have been pretty "boring" in the bedroom. We are young, I am 24 and he's 26. I try to communicate to him because i am always the one trying to initiate physical attention and he rejects me often. But worse than that, he almost never comes on to me. I feel like he is not attracted to me anymore. I have not really gained any weight or changed my appearance at all. I know he is not cheating or anything like that. I don't know what else to do. I try to show him when I am in the mood but i feel like I am ALWAYS begging/chasing him and its really starting to effect my self-esteem. What do i do? Would love to hear from male perspective. thanks!
 
You need prayer. The book "Couples Who Pray" Changes lives.

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You're probably not having enough variety in the bedroom. You're old enough, rent a porno or buy a book to give you some new ideas! ^-^
 
lol it sounds to me like hes cheating but u say u know he isnt so maybe he just isnt into u anymore put on a sexii outfit and get his attention /smile and if that doesnt work "Jerry Jerry Jerry!" lmfao jk if that doesnt work tell him how u feel and see what happens
 
I am not a man but I hope that you will read my answer anyway.I have been married for 27yrs. so I went through this too.You have to tell him how he is making you feel ask him if there is anything that you can do different to appeal to him ask him what his fantasy's are and try to accommodate him.It may not be you it just may be work and when he gets home he just does not have the energy that it takes to satisfy you so rather than not do a good job he just goes to bed so that he does not disappoint you.The only way to know is to ask.
 
Any loving spouse would not deny his or her partner of their sexual need, especially for your age who have not aged nor experiencing any physical challenge.

The only thing I can think of right now are the following;

1. It could be that your husband is not fully matured to understand that sex is part of married life.

2. He wouldn't mary you for anything, because it's really hard to separate a physical attraction and love (especially for your age).

3. He could be a homosexual.

4. He could be suffering from a psychological illness, like depression or something similar.

Sex is fun and even goes beyong the physical especially if you're doing it with someone you love.
 
omg I have been there before always begging for sex! but now it is the other way around he is always begging now!!! mmmm and I love sex! but pay backs are fun!!! I just make my self cum so I always get what I want! so do what I do and masturbate!!!!
 
Yes..He May Be Gay butttt
COSMOPOLITAN CAN HELP
i get all my tricks from it
EX: Tie your hubbie's eyes so cant see, strip him and rub you body on him , my bf loves it..drives him nuts!
 
I avoid my wife when she complains too much. All of her anxiety and negativity just completely makes me go limp. Another turn off is lack of chase. I know you're married but make him compete for your attention with something else, not TV. Get a hobby, go to the gym alot, hang out with your friends. Also, toss your TV.

The guy loves you, he did marry you.
 
Talk to him. Find out hat he's looking for in his sex life. Get in touch with that deep rooted sexual energy. Everybody has it, but sometimes it gets lost in the routine. Be spontaneous, show him your true colors as well. If that doesn't work then maybe you've just lost the chemistry.
Whatever you do though don't let this affect your self esteem. I'm sure you're beautiful woman with a lot to offer.
As far as my personal opinion I think when a woman is engaging and pushing for it is a huge turn on, but that's just me.
 
ho!............what you say is just temporary because living beings are naturally happy with sex. They are created by it.
 
Try counseling and see where it goes. You may have to leave because there is obviously more wrong than just sex.
 
He probably doesn't find you appealing.
YOu've probably bitched him into a sexual coma.
 
Why don't you try to talk to him about it? Maybe he has a lot of things in his mind that he couldn't think of sex anymore? The best thing to do is to talk to him. Or maybe he wants something new, not just the plain sex.. or maybe he wants to start it in a different way, something more passionate like having a very romantic talk before doing it. Maybe you need to date more again to keep the closeness and make it firm.

But the best thing to do for now is to talk to him. tell him you love him so much.. Try to date more often. He could have been so much busy in work. Maybe he's just tired.

Just talk to him.

Goodluck!
 
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