This isn't a typical meet overnight relationship. We spoke for about 2 years online and over the phone before meeting over the summer. I'm 34 and he's 30, so we're not children. Everything clicks "just right". He left his lifelong homestate over 800 miles away to be here with me (and my children) about 4 months ago now. We seemed to connect sexually as well. When we met, after months of talking, we dived right in there, and nothing seemed to be amiss.
I'm a pretty sexual person. He knew that early on and things seemed to match there between us. Now, after some time together though, to skip to the point, we "might" have sex twice a week. I do reach a point where I can't stand it anymore, and have woken him up or sent him to bed with oral sex in between on somewhat frequent occasion, but he's a very giving person and I'm frustrated that recently, things don't feel like they're being met on his end for me. I don't understand the problem. I'm of the general understanding, both in theory and experience, that men are generally more interested in women in regular sexual gratification, so I'm wondering if there's something wrong here? Is it possible that the occasional oral I throw in is hurting my chances of being pleased myself? Or, perhaps that's something he prefers and is now waiting on it, even though he IS aware that I need more? Or, maybe he's just not so into having sex so often afterall...I'd be alright with that, too. Tonight, I was just laying with him watching a movie...it's been 3 days.
I thought things were going somewhere and then he fell asleep, so there I am. Sigh.
I'm a pretty sexual person. He knew that early on and things seemed to match there between us. Now, after some time together though, to skip to the point, we "might" have sex twice a week. I do reach a point where I can't stand it anymore, and have woken him up or sent him to bed with oral sex in between on somewhat frequent occasion, but he's a very giving person and I'm frustrated that recently, things don't feel like they're being met on his end for me. I don't understand the problem. I'm of the general understanding, both in theory and experience, that men are generally more interested in women in regular sexual gratification, so I'm wondering if there's something wrong here? Is it possible that the occasional oral I throw in is hurting my chances of being pleased myself? Or, perhaps that's something he prefers and is now waiting on it, even though he IS aware that I need more? Or, maybe he's just not so into having sex so often afterall...I'd be alright with that, too. Tonight, I was just laying with him watching a movie...it's been 3 days.
I thought things were going somewhere and then he fell asleep, so there I am. Sigh.