Your not going to like my suggestion, but here goes any way. Fuel injectors are prone to failure and they are hard to diagnosis. Your explanation really fits the injector that is failing. If you have a mechanics stethoscope, you can listen to each injector and hear the injector working or the intermittent miss. Because yours is a load problem, some of the scanners have the ability to fire each injector upon demand. I suggest you pull the fuel rail and the injectors then go to the demand section of the scanner menu. This will allow you to perform a functional test of each injector. Your looking for a conical or cone type spray from each injector. Dripping is a sign of pending failure. This test can also be performed with out pulling the rail and injectors but it is a little less effective because you can not see the spray pattern. This way you still use the scanner, but you monitor the fuel pressure for a drop that indicates that the injector fired. Hope this helps.