Morgenstern
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Me and this guy had a fling way back earlier this year, I hadn't known him long, he pursued me and came onto me fast, we didn't sleep together as I am a virgin and he was uncomfortable with that though he offered to carry on. (he didn't want a relationship but claimed he wasn't a player)
We were going to remain friends, but he was totally insensitive, always talk about women/sex in front of me, (more than the average friend I mean) He would be flaky, if I complained I'd be tagged as needy or paranoid.
I think he basically planned to have a fling/FWB situation with me and since it didn't work out because I was a virgin he felt just like I was just someone there to gain an ego boost from.
I told him we shouldn't hang out anymore and remain civil at work, because it was hurting my self-esteem, he just said he didn't mind but again blamed me saying I shied away and such. I deleted him off FB because he was ignoring my messages.
3 months later of no contact, (other than brief encounters when he popped in at work randomly)
We had shifts together again, firstly he was only civil, but gradually he started butting in conversations, being overly attentive and helpful, showing up near me, making excuses to come to my till by bringing a penny over and a piece of rubbish. When I asked another co-worker to find out about my breaks he was the one who kept appearing near me and telling me about it.
He took this thing over to me I had been looking for about 5-10 mins ago, when I told him I no longer needed it he said "aw I feel so useless"
Then he was talking to me about how he has started college, joined a martial arts class and showed me his boxing gloves for it, and was asking if I'd seen this movie by this actor/singer he knew I liked.
He also asked me about my holiday I didn't even tell him I'd gone on holiday, and during bag check after work he told me he didn't care about bag check and just wanted to see what was in my bag.
When he popped into work thursday he came over to me to ask me how I was and told me that he liked my new badge, he interrupted me when I was talking with a customer.
Once he tried to block the way when I was trying to get through the door so I had to squeeze past him, he did a smiler thing at the gap in the till and deliberately walked into me (not in a way that hurt though) and giggled.
He has also pretended to throw things at me.
And this coworker who worked there said when I was leaving " oh I didn't see you today" and the guy said to him "Are you blind?!"
He also came an stood behind me and put his hands on my shoulders a couple of times at work today, and also touched/lightly hit my back when I was bent down. (I was wearing a bodysuit at the top) He did it again later and put his hands on the bare part of my back.
He will try and make conversation with me whenever I'm nearby/would come over to me even if I was talking to someone else.
He makes a point of asking me how I am if he gets the chance, Im always polite and say fine thank you, but I don't ask him back.
I hear him talking about sex to other people or talk about women he finds hot (he was talking about this woman having a nice *** to someone) I just hate how chauvinistic he act and somewhat disrespectful, and he flirts with women all the time, which is why I don't really want to be friendly to him.
I don't know why he thinks it is ok to just touch me or talk to me as if he never did anything wrong.
Why do you think he's acting like this to me after ignoring me all that time? He hasn't contacted me outside of work however.
We were going to remain friends, but he was totally insensitive, always talk about women/sex in front of me, (more than the average friend I mean) He would be flaky, if I complained I'd be tagged as needy or paranoid.
I think he basically planned to have a fling/FWB situation with me and since it didn't work out because I was a virgin he felt just like I was just someone there to gain an ego boost from.
I told him we shouldn't hang out anymore and remain civil at work, because it was hurting my self-esteem, he just said he didn't mind but again blamed me saying I shied away and such. I deleted him off FB because he was ignoring my messages.
3 months later of no contact, (other than brief encounters when he popped in at work randomly)
We had shifts together again, firstly he was only civil, but gradually he started butting in conversations, being overly attentive and helpful, showing up near me, making excuses to come to my till by bringing a penny over and a piece of rubbish. When I asked another co-worker to find out about my breaks he was the one who kept appearing near me and telling me about it.
He took this thing over to me I had been looking for about 5-10 mins ago, when I told him I no longer needed it he said "aw I feel so useless"
Then he was talking to me about how he has started college, joined a martial arts class and showed me his boxing gloves for it, and was asking if I'd seen this movie by this actor/singer he knew I liked.
He also asked me about my holiday I didn't even tell him I'd gone on holiday, and during bag check after work he told me he didn't care about bag check and just wanted to see what was in my bag.
When he popped into work thursday he came over to me to ask me how I was and told me that he liked my new badge, he interrupted me when I was talking with a customer.
Once he tried to block the way when I was trying to get through the door so I had to squeeze past him, he did a smiler thing at the gap in the till and deliberately walked into me (not in a way that hurt though) and giggled.
He has also pretended to throw things at me.
And this coworker who worked there said when I was leaving " oh I didn't see you today" and the guy said to him "Are you blind?!"
He also came an stood behind me and put his hands on my shoulders a couple of times at work today, and also touched/lightly hit my back when I was bent down. (I was wearing a bodysuit at the top) He did it again later and put his hands on the bare part of my back.
He will try and make conversation with me whenever I'm nearby/would come over to me even if I was talking to someone else.
He makes a point of asking me how I am if he gets the chance, Im always polite and say fine thank you, but I don't ask him back.
I hear him talking about sex to other people or talk about women he finds hot (he was talking about this woman having a nice *** to someone) I just hate how chauvinistic he act and somewhat disrespectful, and he flirts with women all the time, which is why I don't really want to be friendly to him.
I don't know why he thinks it is ok to just touch me or talk to me as if he never did anything wrong.
Why do you think he's acting like this to me after ignoring me all that time? He hasn't contacted me outside of work however.