Why does she confuse sex with love.?

[Mr.Big121087]

I keep asking my ex for sex, but she gets pissed at me bc she says sex means a lot to her and she wants it to mean something. I'm fine with her saying that, the problem is her actions say otherwise. Since we broke up (according to her anyways) she has dated and slept with 5 dudes in a 10 month period. (Simple math says that's one every 2 months.) She even got a std from it. Now why would she say sex is sacred and it mean a lot to her then screw 5 dudes in less than a year. You can see where i find the logic in that a little flawed. Also Why is she confusing sex with love. I keep trying to tell her its sex is sex, but it means more when your in love. But if you are not in love that doesn't mean you shouldn't have sex. Its just more of an incentive if you are in love.I think she wants to be a slut, but not admit it. whats the deal?

 

[lolly]

Maybe she means that sex means somethign when it is with you. She has a history with you, and maybe even has feelings for you, so if she has sex with you, it is not JUST sex as you say, it would mean more than that for her.

 

[MillStoneNecklace]

well, she was in love with you once, and can't have sex with you now without too much emotional baggage. it just means too much to have sex w/you. you obviously don't want a relationship with her again- stop asking her for sex if she keeps saying no,it makes you sound like a douche.

she may also feel the way she described to you about other guys too, sometimes it's easy to fall in love, and men are much of the time quick to deceive a woman into thinking there is a future (sometimes this isn't intentional) and in reality only want sex from her. I would hesitate to call her a slut because of 5 guys in a year. most high school girls i know are past that already. not saying it's a good thing, but becoming socially acceptable.