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Sarah B
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My son is so whiny and sensitive! He gets his feelings hurt really easily. Lately he has been on this whiny kick and its causing alot of turmoil in our home. My boyfriend is my sons "stepdad" since his dad isnt around. He has two teenage girls of his own that visit. Most of the time they hide out in their room as teenagers do but my son takes it as them ignoring him. Ive tried to explain thats what girls do, but he doesnt understand. Plus anytime anything about the girls come up my boyfriend gets in a huff. So then my son has his so called Dad yelling at him because he's defending his girls and I just dont think it helps. I keep saying that its a faze and I dont think yelling at him will fix the problem, I feel like it will get worse. Worse yet he has started the nobody loves me or the nobody likes me deal. He started having probs the end of the school year and due to my surgery he hasnt been around many other kids this summer. Is this a faze? How can I get my sons self esteem back? 
Hey guys first thank you for the answers and advice. To answer some of your questions...
My son hasnt seen his father since he was 1 year old. He cheated on us and hasnt made any attempt to be around. I have been with my current boyfriend for about a year and a half. We lived in California and moved to Kansas to be with him. At first things were great! I do play the mother-father role with my son. I am prior military and I am pretty strict (my son says yes maam/sir when spoken to). Just lately he seems sensitive. Ive sat down and talked to him, tried to find out whats bothering him and he always comes back with feeling left out FROM MY BOYFRIEND AND HIS GIRLS, NOT ME. Just wanted to clarify
Its true I have been very loving, but also very stern with him, its a tricky balance. Most of the time he is fine, but whenever Jerry yells at him that is what brings this on. And trust me I dont take Jerrys side, I take my sons which is why Jerry and I are fighting now.
Also to clarify my son just turned 7
Also his whining isnt for wanting toys or things like that....its when you tell him to do something, he does it, but with the typical oooooooookkkkkkkayyyyy attitude. He also has to be told the same thing multiple times. But geez what kid doesnt? Anytime he does anything my boyfriend gets "annoyed" hell he has two kids of his own so you would think he would relate. His 12 year old daughter stole my diamond necklace last year....my son forgets to lift up the toilet seat. Is there really any comparison? These are the things he gets hollered at for. Which I believe he needs to not be reminded but come on, I know grown men who dont even lift up the seat. I just dont know what to do. I have been home with him everyday all summer and he is fine when he is just with me. I feel like a referee. My son comes first and foremost, I just wish there was a way to make it all work.
Hey guys first thank you for the answers and advice. To answer some of your questions...
My son hasnt seen his father since he was 1 year old. He cheated on us and hasnt made any attempt to be around. I have been with my current boyfriend for about a year and a half. We lived in California and moved to Kansas to be with him. At first things were great! I do play the mother-father role with my son. I am prior military and I am pretty strict (my son says yes maam/sir when spoken to). Just lately he seems sensitive. Ive sat down and talked to him, tried to find out whats bothering him and he always comes back with feeling left out FROM MY BOYFRIEND AND HIS GIRLS, NOT ME. Just wanted to clarify
Its true I have been very loving, but also very stern with him, its a tricky balance. Most of the time he is fine, but whenever Jerry yells at him that is what brings this on. And trust me I dont take Jerrys side, I take my sons which is why Jerry and I are fighting now.Also to clarify my son just turned 7
Also his whining isnt for wanting toys or things like that....its when you tell him to do something, he does it, but with the typical oooooooookkkkkkkayyyyy attitude. He also has to be told the same thing multiple times. But geez what kid doesnt? Anytime he does anything my boyfriend gets "annoyed" hell he has two kids of his own so you would think he would relate. His 12 year old daughter stole my diamond necklace last year....my son forgets to lift up the toilet seat. Is there really any comparison? These are the things he gets hollered at for. Which I believe he needs to not be reminded but come on, I know grown men who dont even lift up the seat. I just dont know what to do. I have been home with him everyday all summer and he is fine when he is just with me. I feel like a referee. My son comes first and foremost, I just wish there was a way to make it all work.