Let me start off by saying that I am not a spoiled kid and neither is my sister. We have never gotten in trouble and always do moderately well in school. So no problem there. However, for as long as I can remember, mom gets mad at the slightest thing. Let me give a general list of things that seem to drive her crazy:
-Playing video games or using our cellphone for more than 15 minutes a day (I kid you not, she says that we have been using the device all day)
-Grades (She doesn't care about the good grades at all, but she just bitches and moans about bad ones because she loves getting mad)
-Anything anti church (She is a religious freak yet knows nothing about her faith)
-If we ask to spend the night at a friends home
-Finally, going to new places (She literally has a mental breakdown and starts freaking out about everything)
I feel like she is trying to repress any individualistic or social traits that my sister or I have. As a result I feel socially inadequate at times and wish that I had a chance to express myself more when i Interestingly enough I have always felt that this kind of entrapped parenting was fairly standard until I got into high school. I continually am finding myself at odds with her and am certain that I want to move out (I'm almost 18, and wouldn't move out without a job and until after high school) The trouble is that she believes that hispanic children, and I quote her directly, "Don't move out until they are ready to get married". Frankly I could give a damn about that. I know that she will eventually try to use the "my roof, my rules clause", but that is exactly why I want my own roof so I can have my rules. Unfortunately I know that it will be very hard to shake the grip of an overbearing mother but I have picked that battle as I know it will be one of the most important decisions of my life. I already have a job lined up and know what my college plans are. So I guess that this question has two parts. Why does my mom act the way she does. I mean things aren't always bad, it's just I'm starting to find more bad than good. The second part of my long winded question is, are there any specific issues I need to address and do you have any advice for a future independent young adult? Thanks a lot and if you need any additional details please ask and I will post
-Playing video games or using our cellphone for more than 15 minutes a day (I kid you not, she says that we have been using the device all day)
-Grades (She doesn't care about the good grades at all, but she just bitches and moans about bad ones because she loves getting mad)
-Anything anti church (She is a religious freak yet knows nothing about her faith)
-If we ask to spend the night at a friends home
-Finally, going to new places (She literally has a mental breakdown and starts freaking out about everything)
I feel like she is trying to repress any individualistic or social traits that my sister or I have. As a result I feel socially inadequate at times and wish that I had a chance to express myself more when i Interestingly enough I have always felt that this kind of entrapped parenting was fairly standard until I got into high school. I continually am finding myself at odds with her and am certain that I want to move out (I'm almost 18, and wouldn't move out without a job and until after high school) The trouble is that she believes that hispanic children, and I quote her directly, "Don't move out until they are ready to get married". Frankly I could give a damn about that. I know that she will eventually try to use the "my roof, my rules clause", but that is exactly why I want my own roof so I can have my rules. Unfortunately I know that it will be very hard to shake the grip of an overbearing mother but I have picked that battle as I know it will be one of the most important decisions of my life. I already have a job lined up and know what my college plans are. So I guess that this question has two parts. Why does my mom act the way she does. I mean things aren't always bad, it's just I'm starting to find more bad than good. The second part of my long winded question is, are there any specific issues I need to address and do you have any advice for a future independent young adult? Thanks a lot and if you need any additional details please ask and I will post