When we fight, it is usually an argument kind of fight where I and him are both trying to prove our points. But very often it turns a bit harsh and nasty towards the end. I wont say we 'shout' at each other. But more like we fight with each other in a higher voice tone. When he highers his tone over me, I do it too. When I higher my tone on him, he highers his too. And then its like we are both on each other angry like something.
After we are done fighting, he ALWAYS says that I am disrespectful. I ask him what exactly did i do to be disrespectful? He says, "when you fight you really try to get in to a competition with me. You make sure that you are not left behind and therefore try to get to my face in order to prove your point. And thats disrespectful"....so then I say to him that isnt that how everyone fights when they are super angry? I am not being disrespectful at all neither do I intend to. I am just angry and fighting back. Why is that so disrespectful?
So people, what do you say? Where am I wrong? Where do I need to change? whats wrong in highering my voice over him when he is highering his over me? I admit that we are both short tempered. But how is what I do disrespectful? Isnt he doing the same thing as me?
After we are done fighting, he ALWAYS says that I am disrespectful. I ask him what exactly did i do to be disrespectful? He says, "when you fight you really try to get in to a competition with me. You make sure that you are not left behind and therefore try to get to my face in order to prove your point. And thats disrespectful"....so then I say to him that isnt that how everyone fights when they are super angry? I am not being disrespectful at all neither do I intend to. I am just angry and fighting back. Why is that so disrespectful?
So people, what do you say? Where am I wrong? Where do I need to change? whats wrong in highering my voice over him when he is highering his over me? I admit that we are both short tempered. But how is what I do disrespectful? Isnt he doing the same thing as me?