why do women complain about this?

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There are women that complain that men are so controlling and domineering in relationships yet they allow men to be in control. MOST women like guys who are taller than them, older than them, make more money than them and bigger in body than them so obviously the man will always be the one in charge in the relationship. I know that not all women like guys like that but in general most women do. It seems that most women like guys to be superior to them in every important aspect.
 
In actuality these that you have described are not "real men". These are little boys that have not grown up. Their problem is... at some point they have gotten tired of being picked on a have now decided to take it out on something smaller than them, even if that means kicking the dog. And I'm not complaining either. What I do is... see the "red flags" and go the other way.
 
Wow. Don't really know what to say to this except that I don't think I've seen so much generalization and stereotyping in one question before. LOL

ANYWAY. I am an adult, not a child. My husband is my PARTNER. I do NOT want to be, nor do I deserve to be, controlled or domineered by someone that is supposed to be my partner in life, regardless of his age, stature, and our employment status. Are there areas in life that my husband is more qualified and knowledgeable of, and there for logic would say he should be in charge of? Yup, you bet, just as there are areas in life where I am more qualified and knowledgeable of. But that's the way life is. Does that mean I control and domineer him in those areas where I would logically be in charge of? Nope, just as he doesn't do that to me. And probably wouldn't either. You see, even though my man is Alpha, he knows that doesn't mean domineering and controlling anyone, especially his mate. Alphas are leaders, not assholes.
 
If we men sit around pondering about why women complain we will get nothing done - it is a mystery that cannot be unravelled. There are bridges to be built, newspapers to be edited, directives to be implemented, cars to be designed, adventures to be undertaken, brown people to be bombed, an economy to be fixed, arses to be scratched and many other manly things to do. The list is endless.

Leave the women to jabber amongst themselves.

But yes, women want to be dominated. I have never known a woman who didn't (butch lesbians excluded).

@Professor, really? I think you are too busy objecting to the word "dominated" to recognise the reality which is displayed all around you.

I do not mean that women want to be bullied or abused, I mean that women want men who will take charge, direct etc. This is especially true when it comes to sex. On all the methodologically-sound sexual surveys that I've seen, the number one fantasy for women by far is to be "taken", "ravished" or (dare I say it) "raped". In that ball park.

In fact, I have never personally known a woman - not one - who when happy to discuss these matters openly, did not declare this to be her primary fantasy. None of these women ever said they wanted to be the (physically) dominant one. I'm sure they would consider the idea off-putting. Now why would that be?

I'm not denying exceptions, but I am talking about the vast majority.

You want to put your political considerations above women's happiness. You are quite content for women to feel guilty for perfectly natural feelings so long as your worldview is not shattered.
 
I've been fortunate that most of the women I've met have been pretty relaxed in terms of this. It's usually modern Feminists who get all up in arms about this sort of thing. Just stay clear of modern Feminists and you'll be okay.
 
nobody wants to be bossed around, but yes, it is instinctual for women to want a "protector" type of guy. i don't think its unreasonable for the guy to take control. i DO think its unreasonable if he abuses the power or treats the woman as inferior. just be a gentleman and girls will fall all over you.
 
I'm sure they like the dominant "physical" aspects of men, but nobody likes to be bossed around. Except submissive people. And there's many submissive women out there but I doubt they are the ones complaining.

I think when it comes to women complaining about men it is often one or two particular cases that form their general opinion. A woman might think a guy is totally "buff" and "hot" and therefore want him. But if he's a bossy individual (which he can get away with being, as he's so hot) she won't like that part and complain about it.

Sometimes guys complain about really attractive women being selfish Bs. Well, they are because we let them be Bs because we are so attentive to them being that we are so horny for them.
 
How does "taller than them, older than them, make more money than them and bigger in body" make someone superior to another human being? Answer it doesn't.

Fuzzy logic.

NO mj women do not want to be dominated- we want to be a partner in life. Oh gosh - pardon me - I thought relationships were based on more than having sex. Sexual fantasy is not how people live their lives- we think with more than our genitals. At least most of us do! batts eyes and acts coy.....Sorry bud but I would say most women I know do not fantasize about rape.

We are talking about partnerships in life- building a family, sharing meals, deciding what sofa to buy, where to go on vacation, where to set the thermostat, etc. Women are part of those decisions and want a partner in life.
 
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