Helloooo nurse
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friends? Is this rude? I've never had a problem being single - I'm always very content/happy to be having this special time for myself before the blessing of true love comes my way. I admit, i get impatient now and then but remember to look at the big picture. My married friend is seems to be threatened or have a problem that I'm not "paired up" (she also bugs my best friend to when she's getting married; she's been w. her boyfriend for years now but is still young, 24 and wants to experience life before sharing it w. someone). She's OBSESSED with always matching me up and she doesn't even set me up w. decent guys (i know for a fact if she were single, he wouldn't date them) and i feel like she's desperate for me. Once she recommended this guy who worked at the mcdonald's drive thru bc he was "cute". She even TRIED to set me up w. a co-worker and despite my disinterest, she invited him to her dinner party anyway because it's "nothing; not like we'll get married". At the end of the night, she texted me asking if it was alright that she gave him my number bc he asked... Too late and thanks. A few months ago a guy I met (w/in a group) let her know he was interested me. I already spent a football game "getting to know him" (he definitely not my type). She tried to convince me anyway bc "he's nice". For Christmas last year, she bought me a "how to attract good guys" book that geared toward teenage girls. For a while I had this open mind about dating and thought about it fr. her point of view - I went out w. a co-worker (we've been "crushing" on each other for moths).
My co-worker (who happens to know me well) discouraged me bc it was a "waste of time and energy". I had a mindset like my married friend and just "did it for fun; he's a nice guy and it's just a date". Needless to say my co-worker was right. As you get older and learn to value/love/respect yourself more, time has different meaning to you and is more valuable. I don't care for "free dinners"; I could be happy on my own
My married friend just recently also encouraged me to do speed dating "for fun" and bc "i'm young and can date anyone I want". (she said she would do it but I think it's a lie. Her husband is her safe, security net; I also learned it's NOT how many guys you date, it's the quality of the person you date). It does sound fun but i'm at this phase in my life right now where I want to learn and enjoy myself and guys are definitely not a priority. I'm also old fashioned and believe that somehow it will just happen naturally (right?) My friend's boyfriend even feels sorry for me and has reinforced that love does happen naturally and you don't need to be set up. Why does she does this to me? I've also expressed how I appreciate her "thought" but do not like this - she's VERY stubborn and still is oblivious. She's the type of person to be sensitive w. wee little things like this (me opposing) and insensitive to the big picture (giving out my number despite my disinterest). Why is she like this? (God forbid but is she really unhappy in her own relationship?)
Her manipulative tactic: "you're just meeting him!" or "he's really nice"
My co-worker (who happens to know me well) discouraged me bc it was a "waste of time and energy". I had a mindset like my married friend and just "did it for fun; he's a nice guy and it's just a date". Needless to say my co-worker was right. As you get older and learn to value/love/respect yourself more, time has different meaning to you and is more valuable. I don't care for "free dinners"; I could be happy on my own
My married friend just recently also encouraged me to do speed dating "for fun" and bc "i'm young and can date anyone I want". (she said she would do it but I think it's a lie. Her husband is her safe, security net; I also learned it's NOT how many guys you date, it's the quality of the person you date). It does sound fun but i'm at this phase in my life right now where I want to learn and enjoy myself and guys are definitely not a priority. I'm also old fashioned and believe that somehow it will just happen naturally (right?) My friend's boyfriend even feels sorry for me and has reinforced that love does happen naturally and you don't need to be set up. Why does she does this to me? I've also expressed how I appreciate her "thought" but do not like this - she's VERY stubborn and still is oblivious. She's the type of person to be sensitive w. wee little things like this (me opposing) and insensitive to the big picture (giving out my number despite my disinterest). Why is she like this? (God forbid but is she really unhappy in her own relationship?)Her manipulative tactic: "you're just meeting him!" or "he's really nice"