why do men not discuss what they are feeling? You ask a question about your...

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...replationship and get no answers? why is it when you reveal all of your true feelings you guys cannot respond...is it that you are hiding something? avoiding lying / self incrimination? what? why can't you tell us what you are feeling?
 
Men are not women with penises. They are an entirely different animal. They don't know how to talk about their feelings and it makes them feel weak and powerless when they do.

That is why so many couples have to go to marriage counseling to work out their problems.
 
You should read the book. Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. He outlines clearly in his book that men are wired to fix problems. That is all there is to it.


The book gives an example of if you walked into work and a women had on the same shirt as you. A natural women instinct is to go tell her friend all about the women in the shirt. How she looked so much worse in it and must have been copying your style. And while your girlfriend would be right there with you talking it up GUYS do not respond that way

If you told your man this he would simple respond. Dont wear that anymore to work. For him the problem is fixed. So you can't expect your guy to talk to you like your best friend would. They are not wired that way.
 
You are dating the wrong type of men.

No single book out there can tell you all men think or all women for that matter. Find a guy that is more open and less dumb.
 
Because most men have been taught that's it's "Not manly", it's mainly in western society. I've been to other countries where men are as gushy and emotional as women, (even holding eachothers hands, talking very openly about they feel, etc) and it's cause they haven't been told that they "shouldn't" be that way. I don't believe men are wired that way, I believe we're taught that way,

Seth.
 
There are two main reasons.

First off, we generally don't think with emotions, so we may not have the feelings you think we have.

Second
Men 2+2=4. Always.

Bandaid, you could hardly be more wrong about men.

Women 2+2= 4 years ago you said you didn't like Italian food just to hurt me because I had made spaghetti the week before. Unless she's too close to her cycle in which case 2+2= Wednesday, or whatever.

Thirdly, when we do have a feeling that is important to us and we voice it you don't get what we're trying to say because you don't understand what's important to us, and besides that if we express the slightest hint of fear or hurt you start treating us differently because we acted unmanly.

Fourthly, because most of the stuff that triggers major emotions in you we really aren't impressed by or is not on the short list of things that are important to us. For example, we really don't care who said what about who, and we're not concerned about "what if" because the answer is always we'll deal with it if it happens.

Hey, thanks for the great chance to vent. I'm FEELING very satisfied after getting that off my chest. there, I shared my feelings. Happy?

All true, but also in good fun.
Enjoy
 
Maybe he isn't sure WHAT he feels? We girls do have a way of making a quilt out of a thread.
 
You forget that men came from little boys!
And what is the nature of boys?
That it's the father (men) that bring the boy into the world of men; of baseball and boxing, mountain climbing and hunting.....anything that will expose the boy to his masculinity of "warrior", "provider" and "protector". And when the boy gets hurt, the father says " knock it off. Be a man!" as the boy runs to the mother for nurturing and care-giving. Look at the picture that you see around you. This is boys and girls. This is men and women.
Men have been told that to show emotion is "for wimps" and it will only weaken their character around other men. So for all their lives, they hide their emotions because it shows their weakness and this flies in the face of "masculinity".
And then..............YOU come along! You were drawn to him because of his masculinity as he was drawn to you because of your beauty. You desire him to be in intimate relationship which he has NEVER done! You desire him to be as emotional as you and it's really, really rare that you will find a guy that can do this.
You thrive on "love". He thrives on "respect" and you don't even know what this means.
 
Women train us to do that. Women always have another motive.
I called my dog a bitch one time and my wife said, "I am not one."
How can be calling my dog a bitch turn into me calling my wife a bitch?
There you go.
 
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