It's just what the other meraber has said, you just don't want to believe it. It took me a long time to see that my son has a real drug/alcohol problem. I tried to explain away all of my son's crazy behavior. You don't want anything to be wrong with someone you love. But the truth always comes to the surface. All you can do is to face it head on and try to find some help for him and yourself. Take care now!