s_is_for_skye
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This post may be a bit long sorry.....
My child started horse riding at our local stables about 6 months ago. She has been having lessons around 2-3 times a week during this period.
She is loving it and as an ex rider i have encouraged her to do it. The problem is "yard politics"
The girls who are there are between about 10-15. They all have their own ponies, and they have all been riding at this school for about 3 yrs.
They are all very close, and as hard as ive tried i cant get my Daughter integrated within their "group". They dont accept any new girls at all, and are downright rude if you try. I have spoken to the owner and she boasts that her school is the least bitchy for miles !!! ( wouldnt like to go to any other school then)
Up until about 2 weeks ago I always went to the yard with her. It was always me talking to the other kids asking about their ponies, working etc. I was genuinely interested, but it was more to ease in my Daughter. My Daughter get too embarrassed to walk up to these girls and say hi do you need any help, she just would not do it.
The yard owner has suggested I dont spend all the time with her when she goes up there, so ive been dropping her off and leaving her there for a few hours at a time. She made a friend but this friend cant get up there as much as my kid, and is not from the "group".
I was wondering if maybe ive been trying too hard to integrate. These girls and some of the older girls who ride there only speak to me if i put myself right under their noses, otherwise they just walk straight past us.
Is it me? am i being too damn sensitive? Should i just keep ourselves to ourselves? and get on with what we do there and not even try to be friendly? Even today the owner wasnt very friendly and shes always been friendly.
I feel awful tonight... i almost feel like ive been stupid and been putting too much effort into trying to fit in. My kid hasnt noticed anything and isnt bothered at all !! (kids!!).
Just want some advice really, and i hate being so bloody sensitive to these things.
We are about to buy a pony and keep it there, but im having 2nd thoughts that it will work.
My child started horse riding at our local stables about 6 months ago. She has been having lessons around 2-3 times a week during this period.
She is loving it and as an ex rider i have encouraged her to do it. The problem is "yard politics"
The girls who are there are between about 10-15. They all have their own ponies, and they have all been riding at this school for about 3 yrs.
They are all very close, and as hard as ive tried i cant get my Daughter integrated within their "group". They dont accept any new girls at all, and are downright rude if you try. I have spoken to the owner and she boasts that her school is the least bitchy for miles !!! ( wouldnt like to go to any other school then)
Up until about 2 weeks ago I always went to the yard with her. It was always me talking to the other kids asking about their ponies, working etc. I was genuinely interested, but it was more to ease in my Daughter. My Daughter get too embarrassed to walk up to these girls and say hi do you need any help, she just would not do it.
The yard owner has suggested I dont spend all the time with her when she goes up there, so ive been dropping her off and leaving her there for a few hours at a time. She made a friend but this friend cant get up there as much as my kid, and is not from the "group".
I was wondering if maybe ive been trying too hard to integrate. These girls and some of the older girls who ride there only speak to me if i put myself right under their noses, otherwise they just walk straight past us.
Is it me? am i being too damn sensitive? Should i just keep ourselves to ourselves? and get on with what we do there and not even try to be friendly? Even today the owner wasnt very friendly and shes always been friendly.
I feel awful tonight... i almost feel like ive been stupid and been putting too much effort into trying to fit in. My kid hasnt noticed anything and isnt bothered at all !! (kids!!).
Just want some advice really, and i hate being so bloody sensitive to these things.
We are about to buy a pony and keep it there, but im having 2nd thoughts that it will work.