Dave Smith
New member
Ok this is going to sound very strange but here it goes:
I've been dating a woman very special to me for 8 months now... given that our relationship is a long-distance one (we are both at different colleges) we get preciously little time for us to spend time together. Being college students with individual lives We do not have the time nor money to go out a lot so we often go over to one an-others house and watch a movie or two Lately though it seems like every time we go out it always ends up with us physically romantic (i.e. fingering, feeling up, what have you). Now I don't force her to do anything she's not comfortable doing and I respect that, but every time I do this sort of thing to her I come away after I leave feeling overwhelmingly guilty and distraught, as if I have violated her and coerced her into doing things or that our relationship has become only physical. She's never told me that she's felt uncomfortable with what I do (in fact she enjoys it) but I cant help feeling afterward that what I'm doing is so wrong. I love her for more than just her looks and I feel like if this relationship is to be meaningful (which I want this to be) then I cant let this revert to us just want to do each other all the time.Is there something wrong with me? Is there someway we can go out more often even when we are both very busy?
I've been dating a woman very special to me for 8 months now... given that our relationship is a long-distance one (we are both at different colleges) we get preciously little time for us to spend time together. Being college students with individual lives We do not have the time nor money to go out a lot so we often go over to one an-others house and watch a movie or two Lately though it seems like every time we go out it always ends up with us physically romantic (i.e. fingering, feeling up, what have you). Now I don't force her to do anything she's not comfortable doing and I respect that, but every time I do this sort of thing to her I come away after I leave feeling overwhelmingly guilty and distraught, as if I have violated her and coerced her into doing things or that our relationship has become only physical. She's never told me that she's felt uncomfortable with what I do (in fact she enjoys it) but I cant help feeling afterward that what I'm doing is so wrong. I love her for more than just her looks and I feel like if this relationship is to be meaningful (which I want this to be) then I cant let this revert to us just want to do each other all the time.Is there something wrong with me? Is there someway we can go out more often even when we are both very busy?