Why do girls love me when i chat with them, but then when i talk, im just...

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Rocky

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...another random dude? You see, recently started to chat on the web to random girls. I say no lie, every single one of them likes the conversations we have, because i'm open to their feelings, I say alot of stuff most guys wouldn't, and alot of other stuff.

Now we all know talking and typing are two big differences. I suck at communicating my feelings when i'm looking someone in the eye. I tend to rush my thoughts, sometimes i run out of breath, and look like a freak as i try to finish a sentence while trying to catch my breath! When you talk, it's SO much different- conversations are different, everything is different, thats why i suck.
 
When you talk your under pressure to have your next sentence ready.
When chating you have more time to plan out what your going to say and if you get writers block you sign off and say "Opps. My connection got unexpectedly servered."
 
RELAX!!!!

Stop worrying about the 'awkward silence" as you frame your thoughts. Such pauses show introspection and that you truly care about communicating well.

Failing that, quit playing "the sensitive man" on line, when it is clear that you don't truly mean a word you are typing. If he did mean those things, a MAN would not be flustered about saying them face to face. No doubt your "random girls" pick up on that vibe right away in person.
 
RELAX!!!!

Stop worrying about the 'awkward silence" as you frame your thoughts. Such pauses show introspection and that you truly care about communicating well.

Failing that, quit playing "the sensitive man" on line, when it is clear that you don't truly mean a word you are typing. If he did mean those things, a MAN would not be flustered about saying them face to face. No doubt your "random girls" pick up on that vibe right away in person.
 
Maybe in real life you talk to much... maybe that is why you run out of breath... girls DO LOVE it when a guy listens to them... but when it comes to guy's talking to us... well we like it short and simple... I know selfish right?? It's just the way we are... Or what you could do is practice on your communicating skills... maybe you don't talk to much maybe you just make things awkward. What I personally recommend is to STOP talking with electronics all together. EVERY day talk to a new person in person; By like complimenting them or just saying hi to a new person. You will get practice and soon realize when it is a good time to talk and when it is a bad time to talk... All you need is practice, soon you'll be able to read people! Then you'll be the expert talker and they'll be the ones feeling stupid... Sorry this is kind of brutal. And of course it's easier said then done.. so I hope I helped in SOME sort of way... good luck.
 
Maybe in real life you talk to much... maybe that is why you run out of breath... girls DO LOVE it when a guy listens to them... but when it comes to guy's talking to us... well we like it short and simple... I know selfish right?? It's just the way we are... Or what you could do is practice on your communicating skills... maybe you don't talk to much maybe you just make things awkward. What I personally recommend is to STOP talking with electronics all together. EVERY day talk to a new person in person; By like complimenting them or just saying hi to a new person. You will get practice and soon realize when it is a good time to talk and when it is a bad time to talk... All you need is practice, soon you'll be able to read people! Then you'll be the expert talker and they'll be the ones feeling stupid... Sorry this is kind of brutal. And of course it's easier said then done.. so I hope I helped in SOME sort of way... good luck.
 
personally i think people do waaayy to much txting and chatting adn not enough face-to-face conversation.
chatting lets you take your time adn think of the best answer before you say it, you can have a few minutes between response. you cant have that in a normal conversation. if someone asked you something you couldnt just sit there for five minutes while you thought up your answer. youd look like a weirdo.
so it sounds like you just need to talk to people more adn work on getting better at it, because all of your electronic communicating is making you socially awkward. and you cant live your life from your computer..
 
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