Tamara Suzanne
New member
I'm having a little bit of a guy problem here. You see, I don't go to public school anymore but I went for half of this year. There was one guy I just couldn't get off my mind. I'm homeschooled now, but my mom teaches at the school I used to go to and she just happened to have taught this one guy last year. (He's one grade ahead of me) I didn't know his name at first, so I described him to her and she instantly knew who it was. She said he wasn't that smart and nearly failed her class, but I happen to think otherwise and told her that. I told her I was crushing on him, and asked if she knew what type of girl he was into. All she said was that he liked, "pretty" girls (not specifying much there) and he wouldn't talk to a girl if he didn't like the way she looked.
I usually go home with my mom since it's more convenient, but I asked her to let me be a car rider because that certain guy was a car rider. I asked my dad to come get me and he agreed, so I went out in the car lot and sat with my best friend. We chose to sit right across from him, and some of her friends and acquantances. When my friend left, I pretended to be lonely (even though I'm usually fine by myself) so my other friends would invite me over to sit with them, and with that certain guy they were sitting with. I'm a really shy girl, so I just hesitated and then scooted over to them. I made sure not to get too close.
Do you remember when my mom said the guy only talks to girls he finds attractive? Yeah, he didn't say one word to me, and he usually starts conversations with all of my friends. And when my friends left, he got up and sat somewhere else, leaving me alone. It broke my heart, and now I have huge self-esteem issues. Eventually they got so bad my mom had to pull me out of school. Like you know, this guy is a little older than me, and I have a brother the same age. Pretty soon after I left school, my brother said this certain guy was going to the school HE goes to!
I was thinking that maybe he was just shy and I should give him a chance and talk first, but then he LEFT. And I can't seem to get over him. I dream about him, think about him 24/7, write fake letters to him, etc. My mom says what I have is an unhealthy obsession, and I need help. My dad thinks I'll get over it, but I've never grieved over anything this long. What should I do, and why has this affected me so deeply? Do you think I might need to talk to a counselor about this?
I usually go home with my mom since it's more convenient, but I asked her to let me be a car rider because that certain guy was a car rider. I asked my dad to come get me and he agreed, so I went out in the car lot and sat with my best friend. We chose to sit right across from him, and some of her friends and acquantances. When my friend left, I pretended to be lonely (even though I'm usually fine by myself) so my other friends would invite me over to sit with them, and with that certain guy they were sitting with. I'm a really shy girl, so I just hesitated and then scooted over to them. I made sure not to get too close.
Do you remember when my mom said the guy only talks to girls he finds attractive? Yeah, he didn't say one word to me, and he usually starts conversations with all of my friends. And when my friends left, he got up and sat somewhere else, leaving me alone. It broke my heart, and now I have huge self-esteem issues. Eventually they got so bad my mom had to pull me out of school. Like you know, this guy is a little older than me, and I have a brother the same age. Pretty soon after I left school, my brother said this certain guy was going to the school HE goes to!
I was thinking that maybe he was just shy and I should give him a chance and talk first, but then he LEFT. And I can't seem to get over him. I dream about him, think about him 24/7, write fake letters to him, etc. My mom says what I have is an unhealthy obsession, and I need help. My dad thinks I'll get over it, but I've never grieved over anything this long. What should I do, and why has this affected me so deeply? Do you think I might need to talk to a counselor about this?