Special 'K'
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I'm a stay at home mom for my seven month old son, my husband works really hard to bring home the bacon. His 27th birthday was coming up and I wanted to throw a surprise party for him because he has never had a party where any of his friends had shown up before. I tried explaining this to my mother in law and she blew it off, so I called my mother and asked to borrow money to throw the party for my husband. Well my mother in law hates my mother due to a misunderstanding and became upset after she found out I was borrowing money from her, so she offered to pay for the party. On the night of the party my mother, my step father and my sister showed up to the party because they are my family and they wanted to be there for my husband because they love him and care about him too. My mother in law showed up, saw my mother, and left immediately. She couldn't put their differences aside for her own son's birthday.
The next day my husband, my son and I go to my mother in law's apartment to bring her cake and ice cream from the party. She completely ignored me and avoided me, I was so hurt that I left her place and walked home (We happen to live in the same apartment complex). My husband and son came home shortly after me, my husband was visibly upset. Apparently his mother called me a liar, a manipulator, and deceitful. My son is only seven months, but what if he had been older, would she say such terrible things about me in front of him anyway?
My mother in law and I have had a pretty decent relationship over the past two years. We went Christmas shopping together this past year, we have lunch together a least once a month and I go to her home to cook for her when she works late. I have been able to come to her with my problems or a shoulder to cry in when I'm in need.
The only problem we have had is this issue she has with my family. My mom has never done anything to her, but she hates her anyway. My mother in law has talked about my mother at length to me and has told me she doesn't think my son should spend as much time with her anymore (my mother in law works full time so she usually likes my son to come overnight on the weekends, while my mother works from home part time so we spend a couple a days a week at her home). She has even gone as far to tell us not to go on a trip to Jamaica with my mother for her 50th birthday.
She is now demanding we pay her back for the birthday party (she spent $100, but now wants $200) and she wants me to apologize to her for my mother coming to the party. I think she needs to apologize to me for talking about me in front of my son and to my husband, for snubbing me at her apartment and for speaking poorly about my mother. As badly as she has treated my mother, my mom has never once said anything rude or unkind to her, she actually goes out of her way to be nice.
I don't know what to do, my husband is now in the middle of this, he his taking my side, but he misses his mother, he wants his mother and me to be close again too. I would love to be close to his mother again because I thought of her as not only my mother in law, but as my friend too. I don't think I can ever see her in the same light again.
Help! I'm having mother in law issues and I hate being so cliche`.
The next day my husband, my son and I go to my mother in law's apartment to bring her cake and ice cream from the party. She completely ignored me and avoided me, I was so hurt that I left her place and walked home (We happen to live in the same apartment complex). My husband and son came home shortly after me, my husband was visibly upset. Apparently his mother called me a liar, a manipulator, and deceitful. My son is only seven months, but what if he had been older, would she say such terrible things about me in front of him anyway?
My mother in law and I have had a pretty decent relationship over the past two years. We went Christmas shopping together this past year, we have lunch together a least once a month and I go to her home to cook for her when she works late. I have been able to come to her with my problems or a shoulder to cry in when I'm in need.
The only problem we have had is this issue she has with my family. My mom has never done anything to her, but she hates her anyway. My mother in law has talked about my mother at length to me and has told me she doesn't think my son should spend as much time with her anymore (my mother in law works full time so she usually likes my son to come overnight on the weekends, while my mother works from home part time so we spend a couple a days a week at her home). She has even gone as far to tell us not to go on a trip to Jamaica with my mother for her 50th birthday.
She is now demanding we pay her back for the birthday party (she spent $100, but now wants $200) and she wants me to apologize to her for my mother coming to the party. I think she needs to apologize to me for talking about me in front of my son and to my husband, for snubbing me at her apartment and for speaking poorly about my mother. As badly as she has treated my mother, my mom has never once said anything rude or unkind to her, she actually goes out of her way to be nice.
I don't know what to do, my husband is now in the middle of this, he his taking my side, but he misses his mother, he wants his mother and me to be close again too. I would love to be close to his mother again because I thought of her as not only my mother in law, but as my friend too. I don't think I can ever see her in the same light again.
Help! I'm having mother in law issues and I hate being so cliche`.