Who should give daughter the talk about puberty and sex? Dad or mom?

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Okay so I had a disagreement with my fiance and I want to see if I'm right or wrong on this.

He said when his daugther (who he has sole custody of; he's a single dad) gets old enough (she's just 6 now), he should be the one to tell her about puberty and sex. I completely disagree and feel I should be the one to tell her. I feel like if he did it, she would be embarrassed and unwilling to open up and feel comfortable talking. I know when I was that age, if my dad had been the one to talk to me about that I would have been BEYOND humiliated.

THoughts? Who's right here? I mean if we had a little boy I would agree for him to talk to him about that stuff.
 
totally, MOM. I would have been so embarassed...mortified really. I wouldn't even have heard a word he said. Like...AH. Tell him no!
 
The mom should always be the one. At that age, learning about periods and sex is embarassing enough, but to hear it from a man would be mortifying. If anything ever happened to me, I would expect my daughter's step-mother to giver her the 'talk', not her father. Try find another way for him to be involved so he doesn't feel completely left out. When I was a girl, my father took my out on a 'date' to celebrate my entrance into "womanhood". I felt so grown up and loved it. But because he and I never actually discussed the basics (that talk was with my mother) it didn't feel weird. He felt that he had a part and I felt that I had hit a milestone worth celebrating.
 
It really just depends. If she grows up having a close relationship with her dad then it may not be a big deal to her if he has that discussion with her. I was closer to my dad growing up and I was perfectly fine discussing puberty and sex topics with him. My dad was the one who took me to get birth control for the first time and tell me where babies come from and I never thought anything of it because I was close to him. So it should really be whoever she feels more comfortable going to about it.
 
I think you should do it together. and btw,, I talked to my oldest son,, not because his father wasn't willing to,, just because I wanted him to know if he ever had any questions, and his dad wasn't around, he could always talk to me about it,, I want my kids to come to both of us with their questions and concerns. I also want them to feel comfortable with both of us, and the only way that happens is by being open and honest.
 
the mom, i would have been mortified if my father tried to discuss that with me.

Girls need to have their mothers explain puberty to them, as they have first hand knowledge. Dad would not be able to answer all the questions.
 
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