when you are pregnant, is your mother-in-law suppose to get baby things for you?

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not everything, but help? after all she is grandmother. how does that work?
 
in my opinion no she shouldnt she's not the one that wanted to have a baby. she might buy somethings for you as a gift when the babys born but she's not in anyway obligated to buy you anything. i dont expect my mother in law to buy me anything,true she is the grandmother but im the mother i planned on having a baby not her.
 
Depends on your relationship with her now, she hasn't met the baby yet so if you two don't get on she may not help at all, it's a personal choice, there is no law.
 
Mine never did. She had to spend her money on taking care of her own household, not mine. Neither did my own mother give me baby things.
 
most mother n laws will get you things. but depending on you your mother n law if she is protective and controlling i would express exactly what YOU want and what items and brands you plan to use. dont just let her get what SHE think is best. my mother n law through me a shower and gave me gifts and clothes and etc.
 
There's no law but generally most will buy stuff! Mine is a funny woman we don't really get on thankfully we live in different countries! During this pregnancy she has asked me twice how I am and that's as far as it goes. I'd have thought she'd have showed more interest every time I've been pregnant but she hasn't, our children are her only grandchildren too.
 
Technically no one "has" to get anything, but you do have a baby shower to hopefully get stuff you need and help with the costs. Some parents/grandparents to be are very involved and will buy tons of stuff and others won't. I have a MIL who wants to buy practically everything and a FIL (they are divorced) who is content picking one thing off the registry and buying only that. It depends on the person, but there is no right or wrong. It's not a like a wedding where it's expected that the brides father pays for it, it's more of an open buy what you want thing, there are no "rules" or traditions to it.
 
Technically no one "has" to get anything, but you do have a baby shower to hopefully get stuff you need and help with the costs. Some parents/grandparents to be are very involved and will buy tons of stuff and others won't. I have a MIL who wants to buy practically everything and a FIL (they are divorced) who is content picking one thing off the registry and buying only that. It depends on the person, but there is no right or wrong. It's not a like a wedding where it's expected that the brides father pays for it, it's more of an open buy what you want thing, there are no "rules" or traditions to it.
 
in the perfect world maybe but no she shouldnt , she should get what she wants to buy
 
shes not supposed to she will offer if she wants to
my mother in law bought a few things but she offered
 
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