Heres the story:
Ok so my girlfriend and I broke up about a week ago. Around late December she left to cali (im in Virginia) to visit family and friends AND a guy she had a thing with. Pretty much when she got back around early January told me how she met an old friend that was very religious that enlightened her so when we finally saw each other she said she didnt want to do anything physical. Also she said she kissed that guy she had a thing with but it was more like he kissed her and then she back away. I believed her and forgave her
Now, we had a pretty nasty break up.. I think somethings were said just to hurt me. She went to say that she saw that guy she kissed was an escape from me? Said he was the opposite of me, a badass.. and felt very attracted to him but not anymore.
I always felt if a girl didn't want to be intimate it meant something is not right.. she doesnt feel comfortable or her feelings has changed. Of course if I'm asking for it 24/7 I'd understand.. but at that time we haven't seen each other for such a long time..
My question is:
When a girl (esp my situation) doesn't want to get intimate, does it mean her feelings have changed? Did she really go through an enlightenment (she is a little religious.. but honestly cheating and being religious don't really make sense)? She mentioned that she felt dirty/bad since she kissed the other guy..but now I dont what to believe b/c after our break up she said things that utterly shocked me..in a hurtful way. Any inputs I'd gladly read and learn from thanks!
Ok so my girlfriend and I broke up about a week ago. Around late December she left to cali (im in Virginia) to visit family and friends AND a guy she had a thing with. Pretty much when she got back around early January told me how she met an old friend that was very religious that enlightened her so when we finally saw each other she said she didnt want to do anything physical. Also she said she kissed that guy she had a thing with but it was more like he kissed her and then she back away. I believed her and forgave her
Now, we had a pretty nasty break up.. I think somethings were said just to hurt me. She went to say that she saw that guy she kissed was an escape from me? Said he was the opposite of me, a badass.. and felt very attracted to him but not anymore.
I always felt if a girl didn't want to be intimate it meant something is not right.. she doesnt feel comfortable or her feelings has changed. Of course if I'm asking for it 24/7 I'd understand.. but at that time we haven't seen each other for such a long time..
My question is:
When a girl (esp my situation) doesn't want to get intimate, does it mean her feelings have changed? Did she really go through an enlightenment (she is a little religious.. but honestly cheating and being religious don't really make sense)? She mentioned that she felt dirty/bad since she kissed the other guy..but now I dont what to believe b/c after our break up she said things that utterly shocked me..in a hurtful way. Any inputs I'd gladly read and learn from thanks!