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...evening" what should I do ? I tell him, he therefore puts out negative energy. I tell him I expect for him to tell me when he is sad, happy, upset etc... he's always been this way. I always remind him he is not a mind reader, even tho I am expressing frustration, that does not mean it dictates our evening, he still believes it's all my fault
Thx for the feedback. I was NOT ranting AT him it was about an issue that came up at work right at 4:55PM Friday - I was frustrated and wasn't blaming him just venting my frustration - he told me that when I ranted about work he thought to himself "great there goes the night" so it's not like we were arguing... I was "thinking" out loud. That's why I wrote, I am not a mind reader I expect him to tell me how he is feeling at any given time, he on the other hand always believes he can mind read my next attitude. I am a positive person. When I was little a woman who lived in our neighborhood was killed by a man who swooped underneath her garage door as she left for work that morning, the intruder stayed in her home until she returned from work and murdered her- my parents always said "better be safe than sorry"... that story always frightened me so I ask him to please make sure he watches the door close before driving off fearing for my own safely. Thank you Hope that was much clearer
Thx for the feedback. I was NOT ranting AT him it was about an issue that came up at work right at 4:55PM Friday - I was frustrated and wasn't blaming him just venting my frustration - he told me that when I ranted about work he thought to himself "great there goes the night" so it's not like we were arguing... I was "thinking" out loud. That's why I wrote, I am not a mind reader I expect him to tell me how he is feeling at any given time, he on the other hand always believes he can mind read my next attitude. I am a positive person. When I was little a woman who lived in our neighborhood was killed by a man who swooped underneath her garage door as she left for work that morning, the intruder stayed in her home until she returned from work and murdered her- my parents always said "better be safe than sorry"... that story always frightened me so I ask him to please make sure he watches the door close before driving off fearing for my own safely. Thank you Hope that was much clearer