Me and my guy had been dating for almost 4 years. He really loved me, was committed, and even used to talk a lot about marrying me one day. One time I even read his journal behind his back (bad, I know) and discovered how much he secretly wanted it and could spend the rest of his life with me. We even survived a year apart while he was in another country. Recently we broke up because he lives across the country now for school, and brought up the whole thing about it being important for him to have experiences with other girls. Keep in mind, I was his first love and the only girl he's ever been with, physically and emotionally. He's never even kissed another girl before me. If this guy really does see himself with me in the long run, do you think he'll really find it in himself to be physical with another girl? He had never been the player kind of guy, but you know.... doubt can make you go crazy.
Has anyone had experience with this before?
Guys' advice would be great too!
To answerman: I was never the one who told him to sleep around before marrying me. Oh god no! I just know that its something thats been in the back of his head for a while, and even though he knows it makes me really sad, I can't and don't want to stop him from something he really wants. I'm not in the same position he has because I've been with other guys before, but him, never. I just want to know if he doesn't do it now, will he be more likely to cheat on me if/when we're married one day?
Has anyone had experience with this before?
Guys' advice would be great too!
To answerman: I was never the one who told him to sleep around before marrying me. Oh god no! I just know that its something thats been in the back of his head for a while, and even though he knows it makes me really sad, I can't and don't want to stop him from something he really wants. I'm not in the same position he has because I've been with other guys before, but him, never. I just want to know if he doesn't do it now, will he be more likely to cheat on me if/when we're married one day?