...now 'friends' = cheating? Found an email bf had sent to female friend saying he enjoyed their flirting relationship, and since he started dating a girl back in April (this was in June) and since they hadn't established what was going on what the flirtatious exchanges, he was deceitful and apologized to her for not telling her about me. That he values her as a friend, and that he's a 'coward' he says. He tells me he did it because he didn't know where our relationship was headed (even after he said he wanted a monogamous relationship and only me when this was going on.) It is November, and we've been fighting off and on for 4 months now. He says his feeling have grown toward me and loves me deeply. However, he is friends and communicates with all his past interests, dates, and crushes but doesn't want to be with any of them, but won't discontue the 'maintanence' of these said friendships. It bugs me still, especially since he refuses to let her go and will continue to be friends with all of them, especially the girl he was flirting with daily. I feel they are closed than him and I. It turns out all the girls he has had a past interest in, he's still friends with but doesn't flirt with anymore because he knows I don't like it and says "he just wants me, no one else." Should I believe it? I wish I could but how do you really know what to believe? He's had secret female friends as well, and did a couple other things behind my back, but never physically cheated. Also, he is still friends with his ex from 3 yrs ago on Myspace and in his email contacts. Still has saved pictures of her, too. Told me he hopes to reconcile with her, to just apologize for the things he's said to her and hope she apologizes to him, but wants absolutely nothing more. I think, "Really?" Why? He says he wants an "US" and wants it to work. I gave him the ultimate ultimatum: me or them. <<< Am I wrong for doing so? Because, he simply refuses to let any of these girls go because they are just friends. The things he says to me don't line up, however. Having a hard time letting go.
Goodness, he really isn't that bad of a person, but this sounds harsh! I know I should let this one go, but how!? Should I dump this guy or what? Why is it so stinkin' difficult!
Goodness, he really isn't that bad of a person, but this sounds harsh! I know I should let this one go, but how!? Should I dump this guy or what? Why is it so stinkin' difficult!