What should I do next? This girl and I have been close friends for almost 3 years now. I had asked her out a while back to be told 'not interested' and up until recently thought we were just destined to be best friends. We both aren't flirts at all, and I seriously think she might have issues with intimacy (not just sexual intimacy), she doesn't like it when guys touch her at all. She doesn't complain generally, but you can see she's not comfortable with it.
However, after her grandma died all the walls she normally has around herself came crashing down. I didn't even realize anything was wrong up until we were at a party and she just grabbed me, started hugging me tight, and just said thanks. She doesn't do this. When I asked she broke down sobbing, I took her into another room and tried to console her. We just hugged each other, I kissed her on the forehead once, and we talked for about 2 hours.
When she finally calmed down and we went to rejoin our friends, another guy friend, who had seen her sobbing tried to throw his arm around her like I had just been... and within seconds she was off the couch and 'checking her phone' on the floor... I sat down next to her and asked if everything was ok, she grabbed my hand, twined fingers, squeezed once and said she was better now. After that she started leaning against me and we ended up falling asleep next to each other, cuddled close.
It's been a few weeks since then. I got dinner with her a few days ago and she seemed really happy and normal again. All the feelings I'd had towards her (that never had entirely disappeared) are back again. I need to know now whether this whole episode means that she feels something towards me or if she just needed a friend. One way or the other, I'm honestly ok with either, but I need to know.
How can I ask her? Is this something that could maybe be done at a party tonight (which she should be at)?
However, after her grandma died all the walls she normally has around herself came crashing down. I didn't even realize anything was wrong up until we were at a party and she just grabbed me, started hugging me tight, and just said thanks. She doesn't do this. When I asked she broke down sobbing, I took her into another room and tried to console her. We just hugged each other, I kissed her on the forehead once, and we talked for about 2 hours.
When she finally calmed down and we went to rejoin our friends, another guy friend, who had seen her sobbing tried to throw his arm around her like I had just been... and within seconds she was off the couch and 'checking her phone' on the floor... I sat down next to her and asked if everything was ok, she grabbed my hand, twined fingers, squeezed once and said she was better now. After that she started leaning against me and we ended up falling asleep next to each other, cuddled close.
It's been a few weeks since then. I got dinner with her a few days ago and she seemed really happy and normal again. All the feelings I'd had towards her (that never had entirely disappeared) are back again. I need to know now whether this whole episode means that she feels something towards me or if she just needed a friend. One way or the other, I'm honestly ok with either, but I need to know.
How can I ask her? Is this something that could maybe be done at a party tonight (which she should be at)?