Following the almost universal advice of "If you want to make new friends then join a local group" I have frequently find myself in this sort of situation over the last year or so of trying this.
I've just been at a meet for a local group. I was friendly, smiled and did my best to take an interest. The meet is now over and everyone is leaving. I think that to make friends there needs to be some more socialising like a drink or something afterwards. However everyone else just wants to go home. The situation often plays out like this
Me: That was good
Person: Yeah [gets car keys out]
Me: Do you want to go for a drink or something?
Person: [Getting in the car] Nah I've got to get home for (insert excuse, kids, dog, other half) or Its not my thing really.
What do I do?
A. Keep going to these meets despite the fact that they are often either dull, or difficult to get to without a car and this situation always happens at the end.
B. Fling myself over the car and beg the person to hang out with me
C. Accept that despite the fact that everyone says joining local groups helps you to make friends, it does not work for everyone and stop forcing yourself to go to these depressing things.
The thing is there is not much going on where I live and I am pretty much limitted to very dull meetings with people old enough to be my parents.
I've just been at a meet for a local group. I was friendly, smiled and did my best to take an interest. The meet is now over and everyone is leaving. I think that to make friends there needs to be some more socialising like a drink or something afterwards. However everyone else just wants to go home. The situation often plays out like this
Me: That was good
Person: Yeah [gets car keys out]
Me: Do you want to go for a drink or something?
Person: [Getting in the car] Nah I've got to get home for (insert excuse, kids, dog, other half) or Its not my thing really.
What do I do?
A. Keep going to these meets despite the fact that they are often either dull, or difficult to get to without a car and this situation always happens at the end.
B. Fling myself over the car and beg the person to hang out with me
C. Accept that despite the fact that everyone says joining local groups helps you to make friends, it does not work for everyone and stop forcing yourself to go to these depressing things.
The thing is there is not much going on where I live and I am pretty much limitted to very dull meetings with people old enough to be my parents.