What would you do if your mother in law accused you of being a bad mother, of

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hurting your child, and ...? and offering you money to give her legal custody of your child?


Cause this is what my mother in law did.

She told my husband, and then me, that she'd give me $5000 if I wanted to leave him (which I don't wanna do, btw... but about 6 months ago I was about to, cause he was being verbally and physically abusive)
She said she'd give me that money so I could rent an apartment, BUT, that I'd have to make her my daughter's legal guardian. Then she even added that even if my husband wanted to come with me, that she'd still give us the money, if we make her our daughter's legal guardian...

I was ANGRY. I was perplexed, shocked... How could she offer to buy my child?

Then she accused me of being a bad mother, said that I didn't deserve my daughter, that she knew that I'd been hurting her, etc... all kinds of hurtful things.

Now she's talking to me like nothing happened.

I'm afraid she's just scheming to try to take my daughter from me...

We've been living with her because my husband didn't want to move out of her house.
I finally convinced him to move out, and currently we're looking for an apartment. Especially after all those accusations. Now he can see that we HAVE TO move out...

But I don't know what to do in the mean time.
I'm even afraid to spank my child when she's being bad, cause I'm afraid that my MIL will use it against me...
 
Can you not stay at a friends or your parents till you find a place. I had a problem with my in laws and did just that with out my partner. I stayed at a friends and then my parents for 3 months till we got a place of our own. It was really hard to be away from my other half but there just wasn't enough room at my friends house for all of us and she has 2 daughters wit no dad around, Thought it would just confuse them. I feel for you I really do but you need to get away ASAP!! Even before things came to a head I would just take my son out all day before she came back from work to visit friends and relatives or just wander round the shops and wouldn't come back till his bedtime. Im so sorry you are going through this but stay strong for your daughter and things will get better, I promise. xx
 
In all honesty, I would absolutely cut all ties with someone that approached me with that idea. She sounds like a dangerous woman (emotionally unstable, capable of manipulation etc....) and I would seriously consider talking to a lawyer about protecting yourself and your daughter.
 
F*ck her. let her think or say what she wants - you will be gone soon - that is all that's hurting her - you are taking away her son and granddaughter from her and she is spilling poison.
Her behaviour is going to make her lonely. When she feels the loneliness demand an apology and proof she has changed or she will never see her granddaughter again - you don't want your daughter to be a twisted bitter girl do you?
 
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