I live in a joint family where the kitchen is more or less dominated by my mother in law. My husband is more on the healthy side and a lot of people are worried about his weight. Albeit my mother in laws cooking IS delicious, it isn't healthy and everyone living under her roof gains weight like crazy. I too gained a lot of weight after my marriage and would like to reduce alongside my husband but I don't want to hurt her feelings. She believes in big hearty meals and vegetables are not really her thing. More importantly, it doesn't really concern her that her family members are gaining a lot of weight. She actually takes pride in it 
. Is there anything that can be done in a nice, getting-along manner?
. Is there anything that can be done in a nice, getting-along manner?