I just got into a new relationship with this wonderful girl, so everything is new and fresh. I'm really crazy about her and she usually looks like she feels the same, but whenever we start getting intimate, she gets nervous and pulls back. I've tried talking to her about it, asking if I went too fast, if she didn't like something, etc. She always says I'm not doing anything wrong, but she seems uncomfortable.
So I've just decided to take it slow. I give her hugs, kisses to show her I love her, but it's her call and I'm not going to push her into anything. She seems to like that, but I can't help but notice that she's still awkward. Sometimes she even flinches.
I'm not a violent guy. I have gotten into fights sometimes, but I would never harm a girl. I want girls to like me, not fear me. In my previous relationships, my gf's were always comfortable around me. She isn't. Not completely. It's like she's afraid.
When talking about our pasts, she's very open about some parts, clipped about others.
I'm starting to suspect something happened that made her this way. Like maybe some things I do remind her of someone who hurt her in the past. I just don't know how to approach the subject. I'm thinking about talking to her about this tonight, but I need some pointers. She's the kind of girl who waves everything off and is 'always alright.' Any advice on how to handle this?
Thanks in advance!
So I've just decided to take it slow. I give her hugs, kisses to show her I love her, but it's her call and I'm not going to push her into anything. She seems to like that, but I can't help but notice that she's still awkward. Sometimes she even flinches.
I'm not a violent guy. I have gotten into fights sometimes, but I would never harm a girl. I want girls to like me, not fear me. In my previous relationships, my gf's were always comfortable around me. She isn't. Not completely. It's like she's afraid.
When talking about our pasts, she's very open about some parts, clipped about others.
I'm starting to suspect something happened that made her this way. Like maybe some things I do remind her of someone who hurt her in the past. I just don't know how to approach the subject. I'm thinking about talking to her about this tonight, but I need some pointers. She's the kind of girl who waves everything off and is 'always alright.' Any advice on how to handle this?
Thanks in advance!