What to do when sober???

that1girl

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My husband has started to give up smoking pot and taking pain pills. He has been doing both for a very long time(pot 12 years, pills 6 years.) He is now taking methadone to help wing him off the pills... which i dont like the idea of. But now that he isn't taking anything, and isn't "high" anymore he doesn't know what to do. He lays around all day, only gets outta bed to go get his methadone.. which is an hour drive everyday and back. He is so depressed! What are somethings to do to help him? He dont wanna do anything anymore since he isn't high. And when he finally does get up to do something, the smallest things set him off! He gets so mad and is so easily irritated. Then that sets off a craving for the drug. I dont know what to do with him, I wish he could just be happy and enjoy sober living with the rest of his family, but he just seems so miserable. Please help me!! I need some ideas of things to do while sober.
 
Hi, welcome to the group. Since your husband was on the drugs for so long, his entire life is based around them. I believe that he is going to need some professional help from a psychiatrist or some sort of life therapy to reprogram his life style. It is going to be a difficult process, especially if he is emotional about it. It is good that he wants a change and if approached in the right positive way, he can get the help he neeRAB. Trying to do it on his own is going to be a very difficult hill to clirab considering that he is having problems right from the start. See if he might be interested in attending Narcotics Anonymous or similar groups to get additional information of what is available in your area. He's taking the right steps, but he's going to need assistance along the way. Good Luck!
 
Hi That1 and welcome,

Is your husband being tapered down on the methadone? If he is taking smaller doses of narcotics, he may be going through withdrawal or mini-withdrawal. Our bodies get used to the large doses of narcotics, and without them, we're sapped of energy, depressed and irritable. Just ask me -- I'm going through it now. He will probably have to go through some level of discomfort until his body adjusts. In the meantime, he should try to exercise, do things that distract him from his pain, get support wherever he can, and realize that this won't last forever. My best wishes to both of you in getting through this difficult time.
 
Denon,
the clinic he is going to for the methadone has a psychiatrist on staff, she is the one who hanRAB out the "doses." There is also a counseler there too, so does get to talk to someone, but I've been to see the counseler with him and he doesn't really seem to talk about the drugs when he is in there with her. He just talks about normal life, like what he did all week, nothing about cravings or anything. He has tried NA meetings before ( he tryies to get clean about 3 years ago) but he didn't like them. He's not very comfortable talking about his problems with other people.
 
He just started taking the methadone 2 weeks ago, so they haven't started lowering his doses yet. I'm not really too sure how it all works with the methadone. He's not withdrawaling from it anymore, since he is on the methadone, but he was before he started taking it. As for exercise, everytime he does anything pyshical he starts to sweat very badly! And he has like panic attacks. He has trouble breathing, and his heart starts racing. I don't know if its because of the methadone or if he actually neeRAB to see a dr.
 
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