Beyonce Knowles
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Soo....I've been dating a guy for three months. We haven't been intimate (only kissed). I finally told him I have HSVII. I told him one Sunday afternoon while we were talking and hanging out over my place. I had written a letter to him about it, and basically used the letter to tell him that I've had it since 05, and I told him about HSVII, what it is, how you can get it, when people take medications for it, that I trusted him to tell him and thought that because we had been having more conversations about sex (and getting more physical, etc.), that it was important he know.
He listened and gave me a hug afterwards and we talked for an hour about it after that. Then he stayed the rest of the evening and we watched football and that was it. I know it's hard to give someone advice without knowing the two people, but I am wondering should I bring up the conversation again? One reason that I told him now is because I feel myself developing feelings down the line if we continue to spend the kind of time together that we've been spending together. We haven't had the 'exclusive' talk but we spend the kind of time together that couples do, in my opinion.
The same week we talked, he got a new apartment and moved out of a place where he had a roommate. And also started back classes for graduate school and a new project at work so I didn't mention anything about our conversation since then....and neither has he. I especially wanted to give him time and space to think about everything I said cuz it was a LOT. But now I want to know where his head is with things....meaning, how does he want things to change? I will be respectful of whatever he wants or doesn't want but just need to know what he's thinking/feeling....I actually need to hear it. I don't want us to continue on as if the conversation never happened, and I don't want him calling me now because he pities me or anything either. The other thing is that I gave him an envelope with information about HSVII in it as well...to take with him. He took it with him but I don't know if he read it because we haven't talked about my situation since.
So my questions are:
What would you say to the person?
Would you not say anything yet?
Keep in mind that with everything that's happened since the talk, we also have not seen each other since then (12 days as of today). I feel like things are a little awkward; just can't quite put my finger on it...but it could really be me treating us different and being vulnerable/overly sensitive now that I've told him this (does that make sense?...in other words I may be over-reacting to things at the moment). I need some good advice about what to say, if anything, and how to say it...and how to continue moving on and moving forward, if that's what's best. Thanks.
He listened and gave me a hug afterwards and we talked for an hour about it after that. Then he stayed the rest of the evening and we watched football and that was it. I know it's hard to give someone advice without knowing the two people, but I am wondering should I bring up the conversation again? One reason that I told him now is because I feel myself developing feelings down the line if we continue to spend the kind of time together that we've been spending together. We haven't had the 'exclusive' talk but we spend the kind of time together that couples do, in my opinion.
The same week we talked, he got a new apartment and moved out of a place where he had a roommate. And also started back classes for graduate school and a new project at work so I didn't mention anything about our conversation since then....and neither has he. I especially wanted to give him time and space to think about everything I said cuz it was a LOT. But now I want to know where his head is with things....meaning, how does he want things to change? I will be respectful of whatever he wants or doesn't want but just need to know what he's thinking/feeling....I actually need to hear it. I don't want us to continue on as if the conversation never happened, and I don't want him calling me now because he pities me or anything either. The other thing is that I gave him an envelope with information about HSVII in it as well...to take with him. He took it with him but I don't know if he read it because we haven't talked about my situation since.
So my questions are:
What would you say to the person?
Would you not say anything yet?
Keep in mind that with everything that's happened since the talk, we also have not seen each other since then (12 days as of today). I feel like things are a little awkward; just can't quite put my finger on it...but it could really be me treating us different and being vulnerable/overly sensitive now that I've told him this (does that make sense?...in other words I may be over-reacting to things at the moment). I need some good advice about what to say, if anything, and how to say it...and how to continue moving on and moving forward, if that's what's best. Thanks.