What to do? Military Fiance'?

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Mary

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My Fiance' is in the Army national Guard (and yes, they still go to war like every other branch) and is being shipped out to Iraq this December, so Im going to have to raise our kid by myself for the first year (im 25 weeks) The thing is, when he went to AIT I got really depressed. I didnt even want to get up in the morning. and I started getting this weird, sick feeling in the pit of my stomach everytime I see something that reminds me of the Military or if I think of it. I don't know if this is hate for the Military or what. All I know is that it makes me miserable, and feel like a bad person. I want it gone. any advice?

P.s. Don't put down national guard please. Im the one that conviced him to go Guard instead of active, hoping it would be easier.
 
I know how you feel.. My boyfriend is leaving for Iraq in a few weeks, and when he gets back we're going to get engaged. I asked a question here yesterday, and they all said Iraq is a lot safer now then before. So there's a chance they're just going to be online and stuff.. They also said they'll be able to contact you or something everyday. My boyfriend is currently in AIT also, and I did get depressed when he went. But I still text and talk to him on the phone everyday and night. Being in the military isn't a bad thing, they're fighting for our country. They're fighting to protect the people they love, I don't think your fiance is going to be in Iraq for long, my boyfriend is going to be there for 6 months. Just try to think of why he joined the military, I don't think you hate it, you just hate the fact that he has to leave to go to Iraq. But he'll come back to you. Good luck!
 
It's not a hate for the military, its you missing your fiance. Their is nothing wrong with that, you are only human. What you are feeling is the anxiety of your man being gone. My best advice is for you to do what us veterans did and what current military members do and that is to get yourself a "short timers" calender. Just start counting down the days until he gets back. I know that 25 weeks, seems like a long time, but by military standards, thats not long at all. You do know that he is able to call you and you can write as often as you like. Maybe thats another thing that you can do, to help ease your mind, while he is away. Just start writing letters on a regular basis. That might even prove to be therapeutic for you.

As far as the National Guard goes, it is only the ignorant people that talk trash about them. The Army and its reserve components work hand in hand, in peace and in wartime. There is little difference during wartime.

Just hang in there, he will be back before you know it!
 
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