what should me and my sisters do??

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I'm an adult, and my mom treats me and my sisters like a child, we are 25, 20, and 35, yes, all still living at home because we do not have the proper education to be independent. sadly, my mom refuses to teach us anything and she has always been this way. she is not a mother who likes teaching people things. even when we were small, she hated teaching us stuff. she is a bad influenece. got my 2 sisters to drop out of school. we do nothing with our lives, still have to ask for permission, she brings us down even wishes we were dead, she is not a real mother to us, we don't talk to our other family members, because we do not know them. she is never happy for us, and when we do stuff on our own she gets so mad, she feels she must do stuff for us, and she is very immature for her age and me and my sisters are mature for our age. we have always felt so unloved by her. any advice? she really lives to bring us down. she is only happy for our brother. i love my mom..........but don't know why she is the way she is. what should me and my sisters do?
 
get a job.get back into school.if she won't support you you have to do it yourself.i worked 3 jobs while still enrolled in online high school at 16.and started living on my own at 17. you can do it, you just have to fix it yourself.
 
why dont you guys try going to counsiling and see whats wrong with your mom. maybe she had a bad life when she was young. or maybe try sitting down with her and ask her questions and show her your emotions about the way she been treating you guys. also what i would do with my sisters is look for a place and start living on your own you guys are adults and shouldnt be treated like that.
 
WHat yur saying is alittle wierd how a mother can be like that is just terrifying.. COnfront her orrr..But still.. i think yu should rebel, and each of yu should get a little job. whatever it might be.. save bit by bit.. then three of y move out to somewhere small but away from her. even if three of yu guys work. itll like pay off sum stuff.. Work on yur way to be independent its yur only way out :)
 
She really has issues and probably needs some counseling. No parent in their right mind doesn't want their children to succeed. AND you are all adults so unfortunately it is time to stop playing the blame game and take control of your lives. Sorry to be so harsh, but you are all old enough to make your own wise decisions and know right from wrong. Good Luck.
 
tell her what you just told everyone. and if that doesn't work, then run, run so far away. I'm sure you have friends right? So, maybe you should pack up your things, and go live with a willing friend for a while. Go back into highschool or college or whatever. If you can't afford college then get a part-time job somewhere and between you and your sisters, you should eventually be able to save up some money for an apartment of your own.
 
Remove yourselves from that situation. She isn't doing anything good for the three of you and she isn't enabling you to reach your full potential. Life is too short. You shouldn't have to be dealing with situations like these. Remove yourself.
 
Hum...get out of your mothers home. Your a big girl, its time to wear your big girl pants, work and leave the nest. Don't use the I have no education excuse...that's a cop out. Do what ever you have to to become independent.
 
All three of you must have jobs, even if you didn't get much education, unless there is some medical issue for example. And 35 years old? After working for at least 17 years that one must have some savings. Why don't all three of you move out and rent somewhere together? You need to all push yourselves to be more indpendent. Your mother sounds like a right pain and a bit of a b****, to be honest, but if you do start living your own lives and move out, what can she do about it? Nothing. You're never going to be happy and move on with your lives if you're all stuck in that miserable place, so get out.
 
I agree with Carly. I think you and your sisters should get a job like as a waitress or something and go back to school to get your G.E.D or whatever its called, and get an apartment with your sisters you guys can go split the rent and the other bills and just live on your own.
 
Define not having the proper education.I moved out of my parents house at eighteen because of the way my mom treated me. I only had a high school diploma. Yeah it was hard, yeah I had to really cut corners financially. But the hardest part was making a choice to not have my own mother involved in my life at all. From what you say, she is trying her best to pull all of you back from achievement of any sort. The real question is why you've allowed it to go so far? Are you allowed to hold jobs? You say that all of you are very mature for your ages, but allowing her to control that much of your life doesn't really show it.You have to start looking out for your own self. Keeping her happy is only hurting you. Unfortunately dealing with this means things will probably be very uncomfortable for a while between you and her.My opinion for a place to start is all 3 of you need jobs. Then you need to find a different place to live. Once you are out from under her you can focus on education, and moving forward with your life.Just don't expect this to be easy. Dealing with mothers never is.
 
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