What should I do while my finace is in boot camp?

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We want to get married when he is done with his training but I have no idea where to start and without being able to talk to him regularly Im not sure what to do. Can anyone give me some advice on how to get things rolling?
 
Congratulations!

Right, it's supposed to be a joint thing, but I can sympathise with your situation.

The basic things you will need are
a venue for the ceremony
Someone to marry you
a venue for the reception
a caterer for the reception

Then you personally will probably want a dress, veil, shoes, makeup, tights, bridesmaids, bridesmaid shoes, bridesmaids dresses, transport to the venue...

He will need a suit, best man best man suit, ushers ushers suits.

Other things you will probably need are invites, flowers, rings, orders of service, hymns/songs/music, readings, photographers, place card settings for the reception, disco for reception, favours for the table and a wedding list.

That is just off the top of my head.

What you can do if you dont want to make decisions while he is away.. if do the ground work.
Research local venues, how much they cost, what deposit they want, if they include food..
Research dresses and local dress shops
Think about ushers and bridesmaids..page boys and flower girls
Research photographers, how much they charge
Invite printers
Hairdressers..etc..


Ask about, see if people have recommendations..

See if you and your fiance can set a date and a budget and then that will make it easier for you to identify posibilities.

Most guys dont really want ot be involved in too much of the detials and think that girls enjoy the planning bit. You could split the planning so that you for example plan the music for the service, and he plans the disco (as ths can be done close to the date if you have a dj..

I hope that helps.

Also you can use online wedding planners like http://www.weddingpath.co.uk/ to help you stay in touch and up to date.

I hope that helps.

Dont get too stressed and enjoy!
 
When you get a chance to talk to him set a date. I think that many brides plan their own wedding, and have help from maid of honor, wedding planners, mom and other friends. My groom has had little input and I wish he would put more of his say in but he just says, ya i like it a lot! lol i think a lot of men are like that. Figure out a budget, look at locations and get prices and what all they offer.
 
Just plan the wedding yourself. If he is like most grooms to be, that is what would end up happening anyway. Before he leaves, ask his opinion on things that might be important to him (having a special kind of food, honoring his mom, favorite color or type of music, etc.). From there, let him know that you will do what he wants on those specific things, but other than that you will try not to bother him with the details especially when he is going through something as challenging as boot camp. From there, get a book and start your plans. Good luck to you both!
 
Why don't you wait? Don't rush to get married right after basic. Sometimes they dont get as long of a leave period as they're supposed to. Not sense in rushing it. He will have time. Just let HIM get adjusted to his new life first and then make your plans. My brother was in the Marines and I remember all of his training and leave periods and you can't plan much. Just wait until he's out and settled before you marry.
 
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